Irons

I’ve never been into them. Mom did Dad’s shirts, I can’t do my husband’s because they’re big with long sleeves and I can just drop them off downstairs and they’ll be done better. He told me they do it better and I can live with that, saves me 45 minutes ironing per shirt plus washing and hanging dry. My aunts went way overboard. Aunt J did her son’s t-shirts and underwear back in the day. Aunt L, when we visit, still insists on ironing my husband’s undershirts and boxer briefs.

Why? I wonder. Aunt J is no longer around to tell me but Aunt L says ironing is relaxing. I always thought cooking was relaxing, except for a crowd, entertaining. But that’s what I do.

I realized that the $10 irons I was buying were not handling all the linen skirts and dresses I was wearing back in the day. When we went to Aunt L’s one time I had to iron something. I put distilled water in, it heated up, was heavy and did everything the first time, not the third or fourth time of spray bottle and cheap iron.

Now, I’ve a Rowenta iron and distilled water and my Aunt L’s linen hand towels are perfectly pressed. I must confess two things. Ironing is not relaxing to me, I’d rather be in the kitchen. Also, I do not iron my husband’s underwear. OK, it’s said. It’s out there.

Now it’s all about ink. Ink for the beast of a printer, and for my little old-fashioned pen. Hey, he’s home so we need to do stuff like send him to a tailor and me to a grocery. Insurance, car registration. It’s the weekend, that’s our fun! Cheers, Dee

ps I am not a monetized site, Rowenta does not pay me anything and has never asked for me to endorse them in any way. Aunt L didn’t ask either. I just was amazed, just as I was with toasters years ago. Live and learn from the best, Dee

Healed

I went to the eye specialist yesterday for a follow-up from surgery and she said two wonderful words. Healed, and that the growth was benign, not cancerous. She did say that something could grow back and that in 20 years I may need cataract surgery. I may or may not be around for that.

She also said I don’t need to see her again unless I’ve a problem, and that it’s now OK to get new glasses.

To celebrate I’d already ordered very early birthday gifts for me and a friend. We’re the same age but I’m Scorpio and she’s Sag so I’m older. Headbands with a bow. We’ll open them this weekend together and clink them together as if it was champagne and our birthday. Thank you, Nordstrom! It’s the most comfortable headband I’ve ever worn.

I opened all the shades so my husband could see the lake and views yesterday then got up at 4 a.m. to close all the shades so he can sleep in. He just arrived late last night and leaves Monday dawn, again.

We’ll see what we can do about this. I may be able to go see him one weekend a month that would save him time and flights, if I can have someone stay with Zoe the old dog. In the meantime I’ve a rough woven sweater with a loop hanging out. He, the physicist and software engineer, went out and bought a crochet hook and fixed it once. Not enough but the crochet hook is in the sewing kit. But who’s husband knows how to buy or use a crochet hook. Very few. I don’t want to know.

One who’s mother sews quilts and stitches me linen hand towels with my favorite herbs (when she was on bed rest after leg surgery, she’s OK), that I even iron. I like to use them as napkins for guests at dinner but guests think they’re too pretty to use so I’ve found another way to display MIL’s and my Aunt’s hand towels and must make it happen.

I failed my sewing badge in Girl Scouts, age seven. The “leader” called everyone around and they all laughed at my work at her suggestion. I remember her to this day. I stuck it out selling cookies, found that not as delightful as I’d planned (back in the day when we had to go door-to-door) then quit. She was a horrible leader, sitting there, with sweat stains down to her waist and never moving from her chair and yelling at us. I didn’t need to volunteer to do that after school. Back to violin, piano, choir, ballet.

I’m getting older, may get cataracts in time but no more treatment needed. New glasses may afford me a better perspective on life, as was going to my barber the day after eye surgery and asking him to cut off 8″ of hair. He did, and I’m better for it. You’ve heard about winning a battle but not the war? I’ve not won a battle and never will win the war, with my hair. It does what it wants, when it wants. “Smoothing Serum” only makes it look stringy and dirty. C’est la vie.

Let’s let things go. No more smoothing serum, play with your hair. Give with heart and soul. Love your spouse, your pets. Cook with abandon. Have guests for dinner. Make them good food.

Get rid of dog undercoat on carpet who is really shedding now. Bath first thing today, dog not me. Launder dog towels. 24 hours from bath (she hates hair dryers so I bathe her at home and let her air dry like Cuba Gooding Jr. in Jerry McGuire) then comb her out. This time she needs a pre-comb-out. Too much undercoat.

That’s how my life goes. It’s about priorities. I once had a boss that said we needed a meeting about “priorities” and I had to bring her every file on my desk. She went over who knows, I’ll guess 99 files and said they were all of equal priority and all had to be done asap. Write the annual report, keep everyone happy and I’ll be fine. She was looking to fire me. I quit, instead…. and went to cooking school! Cheers, Dee

 

 

 

Posts

I care dearly about my readers, especially those who read me often and have kept with me through the years.

My vow was to stop at 1,000 posts. I’m now short of 3,000 because of you, I don’t care that I get anywhere else on the charts, I just hope that once or twice I gave you a recipe or a story that worked for you and your family to enjoy.

I’ll go for the 3K posts. This blog has been 99% of the real me but I’ve protected others, including my family, friends and those I’ve written about by protecting their identities.

Dishonor? I think not. I’ve done well by all for many years.Not all on a blog. That would do a disservice to those I’ve helped. Human, canine, feline. A catastrophic issue happened to our family and I fix things. I can’t fix this thing but can make it better. That’s what I do.

I’ll stop at 3,000, a few to go. There are more works than you will ever know. In memory of all lost in war, or illness. Dee

Hello, is this Earth?

So sorry, I thought I grew up here with family and friends and people who cared about each other.

Around seven this evening I heard a beeper that I thought was a neighbor’s phone with a busy signal. Then it went off. On again. I’ve seen both my neighbors this evening delivering them a package. This sound was loud and from our other building. I didn’t know how to find it so told staff about it.

All I was thinking was that it was an elderly person somewhere I never knew or met and they fell or had a heart attack and no-one would do anything. I took the dog out and asked immediately and staff had word out. Soon after the signal ended.

If a piercing sound was on for a long period of time with one of my neighbors I’d get in touch right away to be sure they’re OK. Here it sounded like my neighbors’ phone was left on the hook and I heard a mild beep.

That’s not what I do. I hope the person across the way is at the hospital and doing well. We lived out in the mountains and our neighbors were great. There were eight of us throughout the summer, fall, ski season and mud season and we had pot lucks every two months, host made the main course and others made sides and dessert. When an ambulance was called we were there and my tall husband helped a neighbor down the stairs to the ambulance.

Here most people are not so nice. I always grew up with the principle of being nice to everyone until they show they deserve otherwise, then ignore. Ignoring is worse than fighting back as they know they’re spineless turds and have no recourse. Bullies, a bete noire.

Here if you stay a millisecond at a traffic light you’ll have horns blaring behind you. No-one stops at a crosswalk even though it is state law. No-one picks up dog poop (I do). Forget about driving a car. Speed limit 50, everyone’s going 75.

In nine years I’ve driven my 2003 SUV 28K miles and that’s going across country twice. When I’ve heavy stuff to tote I drive to the grocery. Also because our feuding governments do not ever fix roads or sidewalks after harsh winters and road erosion.

Perhaps being out of jobs and not having paved streets and breaking car axles is part of the problem of people beeping at and being angry with people who just want to walk their old dog a few times per day, and clean up after her. Cheers! Dee

OK, I am Gibbs

I’ve nearly 90,000 viewers. I wanted to give up at 1,000 posts but didn’t. For years I’ve been asking myself why. I had a career, a large volunteer coalition with projects I was passionate about. I was always afraid of writing, that no-one would like what I wrote. I was told by one parent I could be an astronaut or president, and the other that I would always be a failure. Yeah, they divorced. I like writing stories from life, recipes, thoughts, and apparently you like reading them.

Here goes, first version of Dee’s Rules:

1.Live, love, laugh.

2. Cook with abandon for family and friends. Be generous in spirit.

3. Get a pet. It’ll make even a nerd a human being capable of thought and care. Even a betta or goldfish will do if you know their rules.

4. If you can’t handle a pet, get a plant. If you can’t do that get an air plant and place in on a suction cup on your window. It only needs minimal moisture.

5. Find the right spouse. Took me over 20 years. He asked about kids. Not yet, see rule #3. We’ve had our dog over 12 years, no kids. He spoils her rotten and I’m the disciplinarian and food wench.

6. Before #5 meet the parents, all of them, no matter how far across the country or world they are. Grandparents, too. Survive the interviews then cook for them. Yes!!!

7. Take a break in life and go to a good cooking school. It’ll teach you Rule #8.

8. Shop the outer aisles of the grocery, produce, fish, meat, dairy and only go in the center for bottled water, condiments, rice, pasta, tomatoes for sauce. And tea, of course.

9. Yes, space is a big dark thing out there few folks can speak about in person. It is also a small kitchen space used for very few things. I keep mine to a minimum. If you eat rice five times per day, by all means have a rice cooker. Espresso with foam? Ditto. I’ve a 5 quart stand mixer, food processor, blender, toaster and hot water kettle. I can explain the kettle, we were living at 6,500 feet above sea level where water boiled at about 140 degrees instead of 212. On the stove, water for tea would never boil.

10. Trust your heart and your brain. If they’re fighting, resolve it.

11. Love your family and always welcome them with open arms.

12. Always say thank you.

13. When you go to any foreign country, always learn good morning, afternoon, evening, and good night; also please, thank you, excuse me and where is the nearest bathroom. Also can you point me to my hotel.

14.When planning to go to a foreign country make certain your passport and visas are in order. Research! Know what to see, what you can eat (raw fruit or veg) or drink (water) and about the culture and how to dress. In Greece we went to an historic Orthodox church and all the gals were in shorts and tee-shirts. We had to walk by a priest who OK’d us. Luckily I’d stocked up on local scarves so some were used as skirts, others as shawls. Of course I was dressed appropriately to begin with. Who else had to walk around the house at age six with the OED on her head keeping posture erect?

I think that’s wiped me out enough for now. I may venture on a walk on broken sidewalks and dreams towards the grocery store to gain dinner. My rules will be simpler, but needed stories to go with, for now. Dee

California Dreaming

Hello, dear, stop and read it as this is about you.

It was nearing 9:00 a.m. on a Saturday. I poked you and said I’d taken Zoe out and fed her around 6:30 and it was your turn. You weren’t there.

I got up and went to use the restroom, checked the kitchen clock and it was 5:30 a.m. on a Wednesday and Zoe was sound asleep on the bed.

She was taken out in fog and rain anyway, and fed, now we’re going back to bed. Time to shake things up (rain off) around here! Love you, dear. D and Z

Politics

After college I took a job in politics. I was hired as a policy wonk but realized I was becoming a politician. Having my little brother and sister do “lit drops” which is a folder on your door, or conducting phone ops evenings and weekends I elected my guy.

I didn’t think I was in politics because I was hip-deep into all kinds of law and policy. I got the call from the Majority Leader (he asked my name and said I had my Dad’s eyes) that said Mr. P won without saying it. I cupped the land line (years ago) and yelled for them to get the newest Assemblyman so his boss, the Majority Leader, could tell him he won. Actually they didn’t know, I didn’t know and just said get him ASAP. I remember afterward looking at a harvest moon and cider,not the hard kind.

This man, P, was the most selfless, studious, runner, committed family man I ever met until I met my husband. Mr. P and his wife and family were the reason I became committed to policy and not politics and had to quit. Early on he had me take him to a “hot” place to dance and drink because we were both from the country. There were few places, this was the lobby of a Hilton. We ordered a club soda and a glass of wine.

They mixed it up. I had the wine. He said, my colleagues drink, gamble and cheat on their wives. I told him of the “pact” where colleagues could even have second families and all talk of it stopped at a certain point on the road.

He did none of those things, ran 12 miles a day, read every bill he was going to vote on (that’s why I was there, to analyze and provide synopses so no Member would ever have to read a bill.)

He stayed many years and retired elsewhere. I’d like to think I did as well. He thinks I helped him get elected. I think his grace and dignity saved me. He gave me my husband, though he couldn’t even run after our old dog! Thank You Mr. P. You and your family saved my life. Dee

ps Now I’m getting crosswalks, no after-hours biker bars and now as an old lady I get to choose my vote, can even walk to the Montessori school that is my polling place. Who could ask for anything more? Not me, D

Timing

Did you ever notice when Muzak disappeared from corporate elevators because employers/employees found it so distasteful? I just know that, phew, it’s gone. I was so tired of hearing electronic devices murder the Beatles, then other artists. Woody Allen would have called it a travesty of a mockery of a sham.

Now we have it in ads. I’ve been laid up with an eye injury so sometimes keep the tv on for noise. All the songs of my youth are being used to sell drugs for old people, yogurt that makes one have bowel movements or food from a box with recipes. Gimme a break.  Pretty soon I’ll see Marge again with Bounty, “the quicker picker upper.” Mom will be back and vacuuming in high hair and high heels and a dress. I’ll be counting the minutes until chores are done and I can go barefoot to the creek.

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For lunch I made sea scallops. Just seared in butter, salt and pepper and served with a wedged, seasoned Campari tomato.

I’d planned on an unexpected find this evening, soft-shelled crab. I may even have some bay seasoning around here but was thinking of soaking them in buttermilk for a while, coating them with seasoned panko crumbs and just sauteeing them in a bit of butter. I’ve more tomatoes or greens if I need them.

This morning was a toasted sesame bagel with cream cheese and smoked salmon. Hey, I can’t eat fish when my husband is here so I’m reaching the tolerance limit. He gets back in three days. All the fish smells should be gone by then. He gets frozen pot roast from two weeks ago and my all homemade pizza with pepperoni and sauteed mushrooms.

He finds it strange that when he calls from across the country each night I ask what he ate yesterday. His family has a cattle ranch in Texas and as expected, he’s a meat and potatoes guy. Now I try fish during the week when he’s gone and he eats steak or burgers. On the weekend I want to treat him to a steak and he says “no, honey, I’ve had that all week!”

It reminds me of the touching story of the girl who sold all her hair to buy her intended a chain for a gold watch? And the boy sold his grandfather’s pocket watch to buy a clip for his gal’s hair that she cut off for his gift.

Well, I just cut off, or had Bert cut off, most of my hair. My husband prefers it longer but it was too long and hadn’t been cut in a year. This feels better, is better.

Since the first rule of my household, except three square meals per day, two for the dog and five walks, is no hair in the food. So the front is longer so I can have a scrunchie for cooking, a bow or hairband for going out. Bert agreed and I haven’t even brought him any food. Next week I may make chili. I always need to bring some to my butchers to taste. Why not my Harley-driving barber???

Yes I select and grind my own beef, Texas style. Chiles, cumin, garlic, onion, tomatoes. Simmer 2-3 hours and you’ve Pedernales Chili. Serve with sour cream, lime wedges, cheddar cheese, jalapenos, whatever you like. Cerveza or expensive red wine from a private vineyard in Italy…….. Dee

He’s Home

And tired and was in bed and I just lifted the dog up. I’m going to join them and sleep. Tomorrow we have our first date in 14 years. Yeah, when you’re married you don’t get dates. Now it’s my job, like bills and taxes.

Our first date in 2001 he opened the car door, took my hand and never let go. That’s romance to me. He is my prince in shining armor, upon a unicorn. I’m going to join my family. Happily, Dee

Cooking Rules

Hi from Dee. This post is in memory of Princess Mookie, and in honor of her family including a member of WordPress. We met (never in person) years ago as we started our blogs the same week and received accolades. I’m sure she has thousands more readers than I but we do keep in touch and I wish her and her family well. Farewell, Princess Mookie. Chani the cat-raiser and her two feline friends will be looking out for her. Well, at least one, the older one talked a lot and was ornery.

I was told in cooking school years ago that a cook’s best tools are his/her hands. I beg to differ as I would add a brain to that equation. Witness my Army Ranger post after I sliced my finger with a bread knife cutting a roll. My hands were OK, my brain was sidelined in work or ideas but he saved me.

Keep your hands and fingers safe. Learn how to use your first professional chef and paring knives. Fold over and cut against your knuckles. Practice onions, celery and carrots. If it’s round, make it flat (carrot). Use this mirepoix to make soup. It’s a win win situation. You get practice, toss in a cut-up chicken and some rice or noodles and voila! You have soup for lunch.

If you’ve a cast iron skillet get a cover for the handle or make sure you have torchons (kitchen towels) or potholders to take it off the stove or oven. Heat proof pads/trivets are also good to have out before removal.

The worst heat in the world is steam. Forget the facial you get while transferring pasta to a colander, that’s easy and only steams up your glasses. Steam is nasty. I’ve stories from school and apprenticeship on sugars and breads. I cannot tell you because you may try them at home and I do not recommend that.

Safety is mainly burns, cuts, slips and falls and bumping into a countertop or open dishwasher. Keep your area clean at all times. If you spill oil on the floor, you’re going to fall and hit hard. Clean it up with something that dissolves the grease! And when there’s meat on the counter being prepared, be prepared for your dog or cat underneath your feet, waiting to trip you or jump up. Enough about safety.

Overcooking, undercooking I can’t help you there. There’s a wealth of cookbooks out there (see my cookbooks sites, all six that I researched thoroughly) for assistance. Yes, I can help in a rudimentary way but only with small cuts of meat, for roasts you’ll need an instant meat thermometer, check out Alton Brown.

For a steak let one hand go limp and feel between thumb and forefinger. That’s rare. Stiffen your hand and feel the same space, that is medium. Make a fist and touch that muscle and it’s well done. I prefer medium rare, my husband uses an instant thermometer, he’s a physicist after all.

Seasoning. Season, salt and pepper, and taste. My in-laws have a cattle ranch. They like their meat well done. I don’t. Maybe if I was raising them and sending them off I’d not like it to look like something I raised, but I’m a city gal raised in the country next door to a dairy where all the kids had birthday parties and played. Yes, in cow patties with a skirt, blouse, lace anklets and Mary Janes. I’m sure Mom loved the cow patties.

My husband is not a fan of chicken (too much work getting it off the bone) but if I were to make boneless chicken five days per week I could make it different every time. Moroccan kebabs, chicken saltimbocca (recipe on blog), smoked paprika and ancho chile powder, floured with lemon and capers, fajitas. I could go on and on.

I watch all these cooking shows and most cooks don’t season, or they over-season. It’s a killer, because most don’t taste what they cook. Tasting is essential. Know what you’re serving your spouse, family, guests.

Know your temperature. I’d like to serve my own homemade pizza dough and toppings for my husband tomorrow but would rather the oven be at 500 degrees than 375. Reason? There’s a second bedroom (office) off the kitchen with a smoke alarm that goes off even if there’s nothing in the oven and it’s over 375. Make do. Just add to the cooking time.

We had a chef in Italy, Piero, at a vacation cooking school, a birthday gift. He didn’t speak much English. We were 17 students there for a week in paradise and we asked him questions. He always said all the ovens at his restaurant were set at 350 Farenheit. How long? Eight minutes.

Halfway through the course we were all getting along well after the 18th crapped out the first day and they tried to charge me extra because she demanded a private residence then left within the hour. I only shook her hand and said hello. Diva. I was nice but wouldn’t let them charge me double for an event in which I had no part. She left. She should have paid.

After that debacle I thought the troops were with me. Chef Piero said “now place it in the oven at 350 degrees.” I raised my hand and asked “how long?” All 17 of us called out “EIGHT MINUTES!!!” He got a kick out of that. Heat and timing.

Cool and timing. I try to rise things to room temp then place whatever it is in a container in a clean refrigerator or refrigerate overnight and place in the freezer, like leftover pot roast. Make sure your oven temps and frig and freezer temps are OK. There are gauges for that.

Now my bete noire. Cross-contamination. I keep liquid soap by the kitchen sink and wash my hands all the time. If you don’t have a kitchen faucet that will turn on by your elbow, get one. I actually went to see a loft, high-end with a $30 Home Depot two bathroom screw-on hot and cold controls, you know the beveled plastic grandma had. I asked what I could do when I was eviscerating a raw chicken. The realtor didn’t know. I said I’d need something better. He told me “OK, you can do that with your own money but you have to put this back when you leave.” Yeah, really, the new folks will want the old crap back. We never lived there. I know what to look for in living space and in a broker.

No matter what I’m making, I always do the veggies first and place them in bowls. Mis en place. Then I do the meat, cutting board is rinsed and placed in the dishwasher to sanitize. My husband and I tend to have tummy troubles at some restaurants. We never get sick at home, and that’s because I’m the chief cook, bottle washer, dog washer and walker and feeder and enemy of cross-contamination.

I wonder if Alton Brown ever did a series on this topic. My guess is that he has done so. My husband can make tea in our British electric kettle bought up in the mountains where water boils at about 160, pour a Dr. Pepper and make toast. Perhaps a grilled cheese sandwich after asking 14 years ago “so that’s how you do it?” He likes Alton because he’s a physicist and software engineer and enjoys the science. Also the food.

Hubby returns home this evening for the weekend. I must clean out the frig. I’ve steak in the freezer for his steak and eggs, and half a pot roast from last weekend to thaw. I’ll make pizza, homemade from scratch starting with Italian OO flour. We have a date tomorrow at seven, a new local restaurant I just reviewed. Oh, goodness, I don’t have a thing to wear.

OK you didn’t read that. I could wear one thing, do a load of laundry and put on the same clean clothes the next day without knowing (sorry Divine Ms. M). Ms. M is a friend and six weeks younger than me but white-haired, thin and a model. She would not approve of these writings but is offering me “fashion” advice.

I had half my hair cut off the day after my eye surgery and since my primary rule of hair, with which my barber agrees is “don’t get it in the food” I always make sure at least the front is long enough to be pulled back when I cook. That day I bought several lovely barette bows, three for me, an emerald green one for Ms. M., the quintessential Irish lass.

I’ll have a Guinness, warm, well poured. Dee

ps No, nothing else. I’ll just sit and read the paper and sip for an hour, then take my brolly and walk to our flat.