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Lunch Money

If we brought our own lunch we’d have PB&J or bologna and a piece of American cheese, I didn’t care for either.

It was an extravagance to have a red token for $.35 for a full meal of awful “swiss steak.” Then there was the green token, good for a cup of milk. I used to add a penny from my allowance to it to get the same amount of chocolate milk.

Not a mom, I don’t know what is happening with kids these days, especially those in households that cannot afford to keep them properly fed. We never went without food, it was a lunch box with a sandwich  and a two-cent token for milk, or a school lunch for one red and one green token for lunch and the milk. Plus one cent from my immense $.50 weekly allowance for chocolate milk.

Right now I’d love to remember my lunch boxes as I had many and they would be heirlooms now. I can’t think of any! Tell Corky it was too early for “Remains of the Day” lunch boxes and “My Dinner with Andre” action figures! As you wish, Dee

Noise

I was told today that our neighbor’s grandkids, visiting next weekend, are asking about our dog Zoe all the time. Their grandma asked whether Zoe is afraid of fireworks (going on now) and thunderstorms.

What Zoe is afraid of is me leaving her for any length of time. So, I’ll have to make this quick.

I lifted her up to the bed after “last chance” #1 and she’s sound asleep. Eyes not fluttering. Fireworks, Coast Guard helos, private planes to see the fireworks and now the wind has changed so commercial jets are overhead.

Sleepy girl sleeps. I’m going to join her before her herdiness, should I capitalize that? Her Herdiness needs me now. Dee

Traditional French Food

It just came to me in an instant. My brain had me type it before I even really thought about it.

I met with a lovely Texas lady yesterday, we had lemonade and looked at the view. Since then I’ve talked with two other Texans, on the phone, one my husband’s “uncle” and today his wife, his “aunt.”

His cousin, their daughter who happens to be our old dog’s hip surgeon, went to college, is very intelligent, and he wanted to go as well. Uncle has Alzheimers, aunt caring for him. His mind went in and out during our five minutes on the phone.

She called today because he didn’t remember who he was talking to and she apologized, no need, ever. They’re the sweetest couple I’ve ever met, making me feel at home at a Thanksgiving event for sixty, years ago, when my boyfriend left me alone for 12 hours. My family was six, not sixty. He said he kept checking the room behind my back and it looked as if I was OK.

I was corralled by his cousins asking if he got a job in another state would I go with him. I said, “depends upon my last name.” Then when we wed I wanted to keep mine and he was upset so I gave in.

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That was my lagniappe. Introduction. What Cole Porter was so good at. I’m afraid I saw De-Lovely on Sunday and I remember my days studying American Musical Theater so permit me that diversion.

In traditional French food one deconstructs then re-constructs the elements. Kill the lobster, boil it, take it out of its shell while you’re making the sauce. Then assemble the plate, frame it with the shell on rice or whatever, and serve.

It’s not how people serve their families but something is familiar. It is that Mommy cut up your meat at the table. That’s classic French food. No-one has to take a snail out of the shell, it’s already been taken out, cooked, sauced and placed back in the shell with a tiny fork for the diner to take back out.

I prefer the more rustic cuisines of the Mediterranean with bright, bold flavors and fresh, local ingredients. In the time of Careme et Escoffier, French sauces, so luscious today, were designed to disguise rotting or rotted meat.

Now we have refrigerators and freezers, know how to brine, smoke, salt, dry, cure and keep protein. The frig takes the place of a root cellar. Too bad, as I’d love one! To visit my own onions and potatoes would be a joy.

The dog got the rotted meat after folks were done with it. Our dog gets premium frozen and grain-free dried raw rabbit, lamb and duck. If I do a sauce it’s a compound butter that’s been frozen, or jus. Perhaps at Christmas I’ll work up a hard cider gravy for a crown roast of pork, to go with the cornbread-stuffed apples and my brussels sprout gratin.

There are other ways to go. No money here, check out cookbooks, especially The Italian Country Table by Lynne Rossetto Kasper, and The Food and Wine of Greece by Diane Kochilas. That’s just off the top of my head. Check it out, it has links. Cheers, cook well today. Dee

 

What Not To Eat

on a date? First date at age 16, my parents made fun of me for years saying whomever it was would show up in an old red pickup truck. Guess what? Yep.

He had to come in and meet the family. He was 18 and I was 16 so my parents scoured the newspaper to find a PG movie. They settled on Alice Doesn’t Live Here Anymore, a great movie I still recall. Then, the roads had frozen and Main Street was an icy mess so he did “donuts,” taking me home, 360 degree spinouts because all the smart people stayed home and didn’t drive in this kind of weather.

The next weekend I was asked out, same guy, to a nice restaurant. I didn’t want to get anything with tomato sauce because it could get on my outfit, whatever it was. Seventies, probably horrible. I loved salmon fillets so I got the salmon steak. I didn’t know where the bones were or how to extricate them or the skin. Ask me years later and I can skin and bone a salmon steak in no-time, place it yin and yang, toothpick together, season and pop on the grill. At sixteen, I had no clue. Cute guy went to Florida for Easter break and went out with a cheerleader for two years before coming back to me, for years. He married another cheerleader after I called off our engagement years later.

Don’t eat anything too spicy. If you’re going to an event or business meeting don’t get sunny side up eggs. Choose scrambled, they’ll brush off your suit if you accidentally spill a drop of yolk.

No tomato sauce. Steak and baked potato are OK but watch out for pot roasts and stews. Do not ever eat shell-on crab or lobster on a date unless you’re in the terroir, dressed for it and know what you’re doing. Example: shorts and t-shirt on the beach in Maine.

Basically, know what you’re doing. If you’re in Italy have your Bolognese. In Greece, eat the eel and octopus (I have textural and familial issues with both so I do not partake). When in France, traditional French cooks remove everything then place it back as garnish. It’s like Mom cutting up your meat.

In Scotland stay away from burgers. They look and taste like hockey pucks and are bloody expensive. Go for the salmon and mussels. Their pizza is great as well.

I should not have named this what I did. Try any kind of meal you’d like, in any city or country. I have, and it’s part of how I learned how to cook, and eat. There are just certain things, like tomato sauce, that can ruin your suit for a meeting, or a salmon steak you don’t understand that leaves you starving, to think about. Cheers and good eating! I just finished a toasted sesame bagel with cream cheese and smoked salmon! Dee

Dad at 85

Yes, he’s nearly there and we are celebrating this event with travel to his parents’ homeland.

When I think of my childhood I wonder the traits that were hard-wired (innate) or learned and think of my parents, theirs, and theirs.

The greatest thing Dad taught me was fairness. Let every kid play, kids can carry toddlers, girls and boys for softball or touch football. No money, no scores, just kids calling on him and he’d have ask to wait until he finished dinner, to have fun.

I looked to humanize the star and pulled up the ones who needed guidance and/or talent. I was never a gifted athlete, but a wise captain. That was at age sixteen.

Don’t worry, I call on him to have fun, as he has intelligence, wit, and as I’m not in athletics he taught me to level the playing field. You can’t do it with cats, they don’t work that way. Dogs, yes. People, yes. I’m retired, not a consultant on Wall Street. Those are the mean dogs. There is no savior for them.

Thank you, Dad, and an early Happy Birthday, D

Man Caves, Corner Lots, Views

When I met my husband nearly 15 years ago he was living in a ground floor apartment with blackout curtains, behind the mailboxes and overlooking a parking lot. He had a friend’s donated la-z-boy, his desk (a door above woodhorses) and desk chair, the world’s first dual-brained, dual-monitored computer that he built from scratch. All he had in the frig was one frozen lasagna his mother bought him when she visited a few months before. In the frig itself were the remains of one 72 oz. Dr. Pepper from a convenience store, and a package of individually wrapped string cheese. There were string cheese wrappers littered on the rug between frig and computer.

He needed me. I cleaned up the wrappers and opened the blackout curtains. When he took me to a restaurant all the waitresses knew him. I cooked for him. I organized his laundry and closet so he could move away three weeks later. Hired and paid maids so he could get his security deposit back.

He was back with a new job two weeks after that. When a neighbor (a fellow cave dweller who was gifted the la-z-boy chair) asked why he returned he replied, “her.” He stayed at his grandfathers for a couple of weeks then one weekend walking a neighbor’s dog (a side gig for me) I found him a townhouse overlooking our park.

He had light, bought a frig and w/d and I cooked. I had a cat so he couldn’t visit me. One day he came home for lunch and I was making grilled cheese sandwiches and he remarked “oh, so that’s how you do it!” In response his mom later sent me a photo of him making his own toast at age four. It only took 30 years for him to learn to make a grilled cheese sandwich, and he still prefers mine.

I don’t really remember where I was born or the first few years except seeing slides every New Year’s Eve at home. I do remember my parents’ first home on a quiet street in a small village. No view, great street, people and kids. I still, many years later, keep in touch with a couple of neighbors. Touch football in the dead-end street (Dad was always reaching) and tree-to-tree baseball in our back yard. All the kids would call on him and his only rule was that everyone plays. I’m a girl and was allowed. A kid was able to help a toddler hit a baseball and carry him/her for a run. Of course Dad was the pitcher, the old softie.

We moved atop a hill for a spectacular view and got a pool. Then to our nation’s capitol for a corner lot where Dad tried to get a pool. In So Cal they had an incredible ocean view (I was on my own).

After the “Barbie House” on the park my husband and I didn’t opt for man caves but went for city views, then mountains, now lakes. Who knows what’s next but I achieved two things. I got him out of a man cave, and created a food snob. Yes, string cheese guy now tells me the nuances of two-year vs. four-year cheddar. Go figure! Dee

ps He’s in charge of anything that’s plugged into an outlet. Computers, phones, whatever. He also reaches high and is obligated to get things up high while I retrieve pots, pans and tools where I can reach below.D

Strange Dream

Yesterday I was awake from 4 a.m. to nearly 11 p.m. The dog was sick (for whatever reason, it only happens once a year) and I gave her two baths, once a rinse then a bath. Laundry ensues, of course.

Today I had a nightmare about taking her out, calling out for my husband (who is out of town). Anyway, I awakened mid-dream not knowing where I was, what time it was and where is my husband? And where’s our dog?

UBD. That’s code for Under-Bed Dog. She now goes underneath the bed by my pillow to get out of the sun and get her beauty sleep while making sure I can’t leave the house without her knowledge. Yes, she is a herder.

I was so worried about her yesterday as she felt bad. She got no dinner so her tummy would resolve itself. Zoe scarfed down a dog food breakfast this morning and is sleeping on the carpet next to my desk.

Zoe is a good thing in our lives. She’s spoiled rotten but won’t sit on a lap or be petted. She just wants what my English teacher Aunt always said, being “by.” She needs to know where we (especially me the food wench) are without being near enough to touch us. I don’t know if I could ever have a “lap dog” after this. My first dog was 89 lbs. when she died. She was not a lap dog or a herder, she retrieved stuffed toys and balls, knew the sound of guests’ cars and would search her toy basket frantically for the right stuffed animal with which to greet the guest.

Will it be Clifford the Big Red Dog? Or a tiger or kitty or lobster. She never left the house without a ball, but one day she brought a huge teddy bear (flea market sale, fifty cents) to to the park. She was saying goodbye without my knowledge, and she died the next day. That bear is in my closet with her ashes in it under a red felt heart with lace and beading from a dear friend. Zoe crushes stuffed animals, tears them apart in a minute and gets the squeaker out. The stuffing is all over the place, of course. For 12 years she’s had an indestructible “precious.”

Chani was a challenge at first because she was abused but in the end everyone loved her. No dog would ever have Zoe’s unique, friendly personality. Even though we’ve had 12 years with her when she does something bad I always say “we’re going to bring you back to the pound” and I never mean it and she knows that. Yes, she’s stolen a pound of prime steak off the cutting board on the counter, and croissants from the top of the stove.

Guess what? I laughed, as we had to have her hips removed due to severe hip dysplasia and she grew her own. Two years later she could reach the counter and stove and steal our food. Now she’s over 12 years old and I have to “Otis” her to the bed at night. She can walk a good while but her front end is much stronger than the back. I’ve had a good life, great husband and over the years we still have Zoe but I had Chani, Nathan and Mickey (cats) and I like to think we all made each others’ lives better.

That was before Mick learned from my sister’s cat how to open and slam the kitchen cabinet 400 times to get me to make him breakfast in the middle of the night, or Nate sat his 14 lbs. directly on my bladder to make me go downstairs and feed him. Ah, well, it’s been a wonderful life. Dee

ps People we know want to get a dog. I think they lead great lives with long days and great profiles and potential. They didn’t ask about breed, I did. Then they asked me to pet-sit on a regular basis. That’s not a good sign. At a seminar years ago a new dog owner asked why his dog didn’t like him when he “only” put him in a crate for 12 hours straight per day. The trainer said “you don’t deserve a dog.” In another case he also said, famously, “a back yard dog is a dog without a home.”

 

International Affairs

How to get people to work together is the think. We live in the USA. I just wrote a post about a childhood incident.

I’d like to think that as we age we become more wise. I know I have but just learned something today about personalities.

My sister cut off her hair, tangled as a child, and I had darker hair. We were supposed to go on vacation at 4 a.m. and my parents pretended not to know where the hair knot was from, the scissors. She held out for a long time, so I confessed and we could get on the road.

She was pardoned for holding out, I was punished for lying. She had cut hair sticking up from her head that was many shades lighter than mine.

Internationally in a political debate, she is the zealot and I’m the UN. That’s what my parents counted on that day and now I know why I am who I am. What did the global tribunal do? Blame the UN. I don’t keep up with Afghanistan but someday before I die, please let skilled diplomats do their jobs. Or hire more skilled diplomats.

There has to be some neutral ground. Afghanistan, Pakistan, why are we there? Vietnam. My old dad was conscripted after the Korean war. He ended up striping roads then managing an Army symphony division around Europe.

I am and have always been the mediator. Take it from me. Dee

ps There will never be a move called The Mediator. The closest you’ll ever get is George Clooney in Michael Clayton. He was the fixer. D

Stories

According to our retired architect neighbor (we love him and his wife and he checks in on me every week when my husband is out of town) we are slated for a “petit bourguois” vacation in the fall. We ran into each other and he told me he was going to send an email to apologize. I called him a wise a** and we were even. We agreed, not that there was any offense taken on my part. We do get together to see the ironer on 12 every so often. I can’t see him from here.

We got our passport photos done today and need flight arrangements very soon. Shhhh, my husband and dog are sleeping.

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Now on to plan and menu. I menu-plan on the fly for us, in advance for guests. He eats out all all week and likes comfort food at home, so tonight it’s spaghetti and my homemade meatballs, his favorite.

Lunch is chicken over pappardelle noodles with a walnut pesto or one might call it a chimichurri of my own design. I’ll let you know after I I make it.

Breakfast was supposed to be cheese omelets but he’s slept through that.

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Sunday breakfast. As a kid we and Mom would go to Mass and come back to Dad, who was forced to say by a Priest he’d let us grow up Catholic, a Lutheran would make pancakes with bacon or sausage. Actually after age 8  he started before Mass with a milkshake. To this day, I love Dad for his love, breakfasts and milkshakes. We don’t see each other enough to cook together (he cooks and paints after age 75 and I’ve several of his Tuscan and Maori works framed).

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Brown Hair

If one knows anything about fashion or style, one knows not to try to match the color blue. Contrast it with a scarf or shirt or something that will bring out your best facial features.

I was a little kid, the oldest sibling. We were going on vacation leaving at 4 a.m. the next morning. My younger sister twirled her hair and sucked her thumb, always.

When we were awakened to get dressed there was an issue. A hank of light brown hair with a knot in it was on the kitchen table, along with dull kitchen scissors. We were told we could not go on our vacation until someone confessed. My sister had a spike of hair sticking up from her head and had light brown hair. After an hour I confessed so we could get on our way.

My sister was pardoned for not saying she did it and I was punished for lying. Teutonic justice. Yes, that’s where I’ll be for Dad’s 85th. Don’t worry, we have 24/7 security and the dog will be there to bark at anyone at the door. And now we have two other security agents, H and B, who like their Aunt Dee and will keep us safe.

I will have my barber cut my hair. We’re having a birthday for Bob so why not have a bob? Eight inches were cut off the day after my eye surgery, and I will not leave any in a knot on our kitchen table. And I’m a cook, and would never have dull scissors and would never use them for hair.

I believe my parents didn’t know what to do, and Mom said “punish Dee.” They knew my sister would not budge, waited for me to moderate the situation and as punishment for lying I think I couldn’t go swimming for 24 hours, while I watched my sister relish in doing so.

We all have stories. Tell them to your family and dear friends.  Cheers, Dee

One Day at a Thyme

One thyme plant came back! The other didn’t.

Sun, shade, filtered sun, clouds. If the herbs were in their natural environment, the ground, I could deal with it. I am God here and decide, because we no longer have my community garden, what rain to put in and when to dry out. It is a delicate balance.

When I talk to my dear father-in-law who has a cattle ranch in Texas, he always says there’s a dearth of rain or a flood, too little or too much.

It’s been 14 years but I finally get it. He’s running cattle on hundreds of acres and knows what to do, including getting calves across the river they’re closing (see PBS for  a show on Beau d’Arc Creek, he’s in it).

I can’t manage three indoor herb pots water-wise. I love going to Thanksgiving every year with my husband’s folks and his mother and I do cooking marathons and she always has some fresh herbs from her garden. Unless J, on the tractor, has accidentally sprayed them with weed repellent.

Let’s face it. I’m not good with plants. But now I do buy my husband flowers every week. I can’t figure out how to insert a photo in this new format so I’ll just say white Hydrangeas and Allium (purple garlic flowers that do not smell). I wanted thistles but they didn’t go with my arrangement. Cheers! Shhhh, let them sleep (husband and dog) as it’s nearly 7 a.m. and at least the dog wants to get up, go out and be fed. Dee