Category Archives: Editorial

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Visiting

I see you, reading my blog and think of your country and how I wish to go there. I don’t know many languages. My version of language is menus, please, thank you, good morning, good afternoon and good night. Also where is the restroom.

Whenever one sees someone, whether family or friend, one must become familiar with the terroir, whether Greece or Italy and even Scotland, where we lived for a while. And London.

We were supposed to take a river cruise down the Rhine and Mosel rivers for Dad’s 85th birthday but he got very sick and died.

I got to see him with my husband, and my brother. Just as we got to see my mother over nine years ago in hospice. Dad and I swapped stories for hours. I didn’t wish to tire him so left for our hotel and visited the next day. He was a story-teller for all time.

Never returning until the funeral as my dear brother said he was not who he used to be in his last few days, I asked to visit the casket with my siblings a few moments before the guests were ushered in. Visiting is one of the best things one can do when one is ill or dying. Even dead. We were there for him as he was, always, for us. To those who make us proud, Dee

Security

We live in a place where my husband can be away on business all week. He wants to make sure that I am safe, as is dog Zoe. Perhaps once a year she gets something dead and ugly from the park (only when she’s on a 16′ leash and he’s on his cell) and has to vomit at 2:00 in the morning.

Security knows to call 911 or come find me if Zoe and I are not back in five minutes. That means when we return I can decide whether, not or what to feed her after her morning walk.

It means we’re safe. That and a stick under our door makes me feel better and be able to lift Zoe to the bed and sleep. Zoe is not a lap dog but is a herder and she guards the perimeters from her beds and lookout positions, depending upon where her “pack” is.

All Zoe can do is bark and she does not do so often. A two year-old could reach out for her food and she’d just look longingly at me asking Mommy, can I have some more? If someone is trying to break in, I get my phone and call 911. i just know to have our plans in place. My husband’s are better but he’s not around most times. Be safe out there! Dee

Bows and Bows

There is a difference. One is to put up your hair to protect the Bouef Bourgionion from detritus. Ask Julia when you get up there.

The other is something one takes after a grand performance. A bow from the men, a curtesy from the women. Prima ballet dancers do it differently with panache and flavor and a dozen roses. I like both. Cheers! Dee

p.s. Old dog Zoe told me I missed one…. bow wow!

ABC

Always be closing, said David Mamet in Glengarry Glen Ross, a play I saw years ago on Broadway with a young Alec Baldwin.

ABC/123 was a song I heard as a ‘tween by none other than Michael Jackson who was then an African American boy.

We’re talking about closing. Jackson is another story for another day. I see barges coming into and out of port. Planes headed to our windows like 9/11 then turning toward the airport, depending on how the wind blows from moment to moment. I’d hate to be an aircraft controller here as the wind changes every two minutes. The barges and planes finish their travels swiftly and take on their next “gig.”

Finishing is something consultants rarely see. All the credit goes elsewhere if the assignment goes well, all the blame ends in our lap if they fail to follow our advice. We’re not invited to the director’s ceremony because they fear we may steal their thunder if they survive and thrive. I never wanted the accolades, just to see and cheer for people who learned and grew because of my tutelage. Grow, learn, wisdom is a great reward but it comes with a fear of death. Dee

Personalities

Yes, people are all different. People, however, have said that dogs only remember things for 45 minutes. Wrongo, moose breath (that’s my brother). Herders remember everything. That ride to work in the Honda 12 years ago? Tradition. Welcome to being herded. That’s our current old Zoe. I’d drop my husband across from work by the bus hut, Zoe would move into the passenger seat and sit like a person and everyone would point and laugh as she looked human. Routine. Don’t worry, I didn’t take her to the conclusion of the Ken Lay/Enron trial.

My first cat, Nathan was a talker. In 13 years I never got in the last word until I held him in my arms and the pink liquid did it’s thing. He was my first. Congestive heart failure combined with pneumonia.

Mick was a gymnast who bedded down with my first dog for a year. He taught himself to fetch crumpled post-it notes thrown over the sofa. He would retrieve and drop the note at my feet. Dogs used to run away from home to see him. He went to live with a Corgi who used to place his entire head in his mouth. They were best buds.

The first of two dogs was Chani. She helped me create off-leash areas in parks across the city. Not ours, sadly, but when she died neighbors bought the city a tree in her honor. It had a way better view than our home!

People have more complex things going on in the brain, on paper, but animals are fascinating as well. They really do have very different personalities. Think about that before you adopt. They’re interviewing you as well. Cheers! Dee

Investment

Or, as otherwise called, college gals’ night out. There were supposed to be six of us living in in three bedrooms in our sophomore year in off-campus apartment housing. There were nine.

I cooked dinner every night for at least 12, including the guys upstairs and another gal or two. I never cleaned a dish. My budget for 12 was $120 per week, most of our allowance. We went out and got $.25 “pony” beers for the rest. That was after we all played Uno.

When I speak of investment, it is about perhaps a Thursday night out at D’s next to the railroad tracks and across from the factory. Darts. On a fancy night we’d go bowling, but usually in gowns or cocktail dresses after a semi-formal dance.

For a regular night out I’d use the restroom to do #1, comb my hair then return to my bedroom and put on a clean shirt and better shoes. It took all of three minutes.

A roommate took over two hours to get ready with shower, drying and styling hair, makeup and choosing the right outfit. Yes, for a dive bar down the hill from campus. We awaited her finishing the task she assigned herself. She was pretty, a tad plump.

One day I sat her down and said that if I spent three minutes getting prepared for an evening out, if I get a fun conversation for three minutes I’m even. When you take over two hours to prepare to go to a dive bar you need to gain that back to keep even. It is a losing proposition. Be yourself!

I hope a wonderful husband has found her and that she has grandkids to brag about. It just bothered me that she had the world at her fingertips (a dive bar, ok) and had to overdo everything in order to feel attractive on the outside when she was so kind and sweet within. She never needed to hide herself.

Speaking of grandkids, a new neighbor saw two under ten year-old kids at our door the other day and thought they were ours! When she hears her name our old Zoe goes skipping (can I say that about a dog?) to the front door to see them. New neighbor thought they were ours. Nope. Neighbors’ grands who have loved Zoe for years.

When Zoe, an adopted Aussie/Border Collie mix “skips” her little fox ears flop up and down, so cute. My old neighbor D and her top show quality tri-colored Collie became friends with me and my former dog, both now gone. Makai was absolutely gorgeous and used to do silly things like try to drink water from park sprinklers, place every one of my dog’s tennis balls in the water when I took a bath, and chase the head of the rug vacuum.

What Makai lacked on the chart of show dogs was “expressive ears.” My mutt Zoe has them. My friend used to use super glue to bend the ears. Her husband, the Army Ranger, would take off the glue as soon as he got home. Makai always had prick ears like a Doberman. She never went into a show ring. She did lead a good life with caring parents. I think my friend might have put more of an investment in her future that was worth her and her gorgeous dog’s time. It was always fun to take care of Makai when her folks were out of town. She and my Chani are missed but never forgotten. Cheers! Dee

 

Food and Flowers

Flowers are more interesting. For fifteen years my husband has bought me gorgeous flowers. Then he went away every week for work and showed up Friday at midnight and wanted his frozen pizza before he left very early Monday morning. Every Friday I started making up small arrangements for him. There is one for us in the kitchen, one for our family (us and the dog) in tiny milk bottles on the “nun desk” by the window, and one in the office as an homage to my Dad.

This week he and dog Zoe came with me to the florist. He kept to himself, thinking Zoe would break things. All the gals called out her name when she walked in! I got yellow mums and one exotic sprig for Dad, three purple spider mums for the three milk bottles, and more purple mums and alstroemeria (same we had at our wedding nearly 15 years ago) for the kitchen bar.

As to food, I’ve cooked for him for over 16 years. Of late I’ve been thinking of family basics. Talked to my brother the other day and mentioned stuffed peppers. I was using ground turkey, fresh cherry tomatoes, rice, panko crumbs and parmesan on top. He’s going to try it, halfway across the country.

Yesterday I made my husband a quesadilla with leftover chicken, some cheddar cheese, and I made my own guacamole and salsa. We bought a small container of sour cream.

We made pancakes the other day (hand-made, I whip egg whites) and I did French toast the next day with my mother’s favorite, Lyles Golden Syrup from London. He loved it!

The reason he loved his frozen Friday midnight pizza was because I always made my own pizza from scratch every Friday he was home. Not at midnight. Friday is pizza night in our home.

Interesting. Two kids were outside our door whispering our dog Zoe’s name today, like they did five years ago. Finally their whispers got loud enough to rouse old Zoe’s radar and she jumped up and said “I’ve a date with C & A!!! They only visit their grandparents a couple of times a year and always come to see Zoe.

Our new neighbor thought the kids were ours. Nope, their grandparents live right there and they just love Zoe. She said she thought Zoe’s name was being called outside our door! Kids. Gotta love them. I hope Z’s not around when they lose interest. They’re into competitive soccer and other sports now so don’t come around here much. Sweet kids. Cheers! Dee

The Body Electric

No, I’m not Walt Whitman. When I was a kid my parents had electric blankets to keep them warm in the cold winters.

Growing up, I knew I preferred down comforters, duvet covers, nice beds and mattress pads, and quality damask sheets. No, they never spoiled me….. I came up with much of it on my own. My own money and care.

That changed last year when my husband got me an electric jacket for winter. All I had to do was place extra batteries on the base after I took out our old dog Zoe. Aside from the sleeves it keeps my core and even hands (gloves are needed) warm in high winds and freezing weather. It goes along with my two Cossack hats, yes it’s cold so they are fur, one rabbit and the other lamb.

Yesterday a package arrived with something he said I wouldn’t want but would learn to like. It’s a simple electric heating pad, $8. I used it twice last night and fell into a deep sleep on the sofa. Usually I use his mother’s sewn 2# corn pad and it is hotter and great on the neck but too big for lower back pain, plus it cools quickly.

I never will have an electric blanket, love my down and just got everything cleaned. I will still use M’s hand-made corn bag from the grain bin, but will use the electric heating pad and jacket as needed. Cheers! Dee

 

Greece

The nation likes me today. I like the country for some of the best times I’ve had in my life. I went with my sister for my 25th birthday, and again for my father’s 70th.

We traced the trail of Odysseus. While we were not greeted at the end by Penelope and Argos, we did it in style for Dad’s 70th birthday. Thank you for being so kind to us.

Ephkaristo, Dee

Dancers and Musicians

My third “Musketeer” the morning my father died was an art aficionado with eye problems. He spent an hour looking at art works and couldn’t believe that my father took up art at age 80. His wife was in the hospital recovering from hip surgery at the time and is fine now.

I brought in a charcoal sketch of dancers to my framer. My best guide, K was off that day. T made me choose everything myself and threw a Hail Mary at the last second.

When I called the next day K answered. I told her I awakened in the middle of of the night thinking I had created and paid for a disaster. Dad gave me that dancer drawing 27 years ago. I wanted him to have a photo of it before he died. It was not finished until two days after his funeral.

It is gorgeous and I look at it every day. He knows that he gave it to me eons ago but would be proud of me for making the Velveteen Rabbit real, in a real frame that honors his commitment to art, music, dance and education. That’s what he taught me. I’ve a plan that will at least bring it back to his gravesite, which I’ve not seen since the day he was lowered. They drove us all over the place so I had no idea where we were.

As for the Third Musketeer and his wife, they’re coming over for Brunch later this month. I’ve new works for him to peruse and his wife has never been here. Here’s to neighbors! Dee