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Speaking of Piglet

Save the deli. I lent the book to a waiter who left town and never got it back. This one I’ll send back to David Sax and ask him to sign it for me and make me promise to never lend it out again.

The waiter’s chef had placed a pastrami sandwich on my plate that even mustard would not remedy. I spent my childhood going to Jewish delis in Montreal and NYC, and this was awful so I lent him the book.

OK, I’m a wanna-be sometimes Jew, for pastrami, smoked meat, and latkes, I’ve gone out for a latke breakfast twice in the past month, probably a sin for a lapsed Catholic married to a lapsed Protestant for over a decade. Matzoh balls and chicken soup. No wonder its called penicillin.

Challah turned into bread pudding. Montreal smoked meat on rye with a beer. Ah, that’s life. Since the waiter took my book forever I just ordered another, a used copy. Save The Deli by David Sax will now be part of my reference collection of cookbooks, of which there are a few select tomes by none other than Julia Child, James Beard, Simca Beck, Edna Lewis, Barbara Kafka, just check my cookbook series and see….. Dee

Health Care

General Shinseki resigned as head of Veterans’ Affairs. Why? Manipulating the numbers and long wait times that resulted in the death of people who have fought for our country.

I see health care as one, two, three, now four cards in my wallet. They let me go to a doctor or hospital.

We should do the same for our veterans. Give them a card, one that allows special access for war-related injuries, PTSD and prosthetics and go to a regular hospital. A card is a lot less expensive than billions in hospitals.

Get rid of the VA as it is today. Keep Bethesda for the president and a few others for specialty care. Sell off the others and keep their staff, especially in rural areas where there are no other options.

The folks who keep us safe deserve more than to be on a waiting list for treatment while they die.

I ask that the federal government place our military personnel and vets on the same ticket other Americans have, and put our President and Congress on it as well. That way we’ll be assured good health care.

Everyone deserves quality health care. We pay for it in so many ways and insurance is but one. God bless the USA. Dee

Just The Wife

Years ago I added my husband’s name to my main bank account, one I’d held for over ten years. Two years later there was an issue and I called and they said they couldn’t talk to me without my husband’s “permission.”

I organized a place to live and rental furniture for three months here plus gas, electric and cable because I was to follow in a few weeks. Silly me, I placed them all in his name because he’d have to sign so when I called to talk about a bill I paid, they simply said “we need your husband’s authorization for us to talk to you.”

For two years I’ve had a tired husband come home from work and get on the phone and say please place my name on the account and here’s my wife, work it out.

Last year one company kept dunning us and I kept paying them and then there was a threat of eviction. We were paying double every month and also paying for a family in Texas due to a billing error. We got the next three months free because of their multiple mistakes.

Only the wife. That’s one of the saddest terms I’ve ever heard. A couple got married this weekend and it’s very strange to live with someone for the first time, not to mention that wedding band clinking against dishes in the sink.

In any marriage there is a division of duties and mine includes paying all the bills. With the NSA and everyone spying on us and security as it is, I will assure that any new accounts we incur will have both of us on the account.

Why? If my husband gets hit by a bus? Not only will I be grieving for his loss, I’ll have to argue that I can pay the bills and cash out. I’ll never be “just the wife.” Dee

Valor

In WWII it was the trenches, cities, parachutes, beaches. Now it’s guerrilla warfare with IED’s, For over ten years we’ve been overseas fighting a beast we cannot see, finally “catching” and killing the prize that killed over 2,300 people at the World Trade Center.

I’ve had a theory for years that when men fight with knives or swords there is less bloodshed and potentially less need to fight. Given bombs and the atomic bomb it shows we do not see blood so have not inflicted or have had an attack upon us.

What does valor mean these days? I can tell you what it it meant 50 years ago when the Navy Captain married us would say. Nothing. But we flew in to his funeral at Annapolis we learned more about his career than anything he ever said to us. He was a hero in many more than my eyes.

As weapons like drones take over this is no longer person-to-person battle. It’s putting your eye on the prize. When warriors or those we draft to be such are sent to a foreign country away from family it hurts us as a nation on a human, political and financial basis.

If this is what our taxes are paying for, it’s time to say no to Afghanistan and this stupid war and take care of us for a change. We have many people in need of assistance and always think other countries come first. Think about it. Dee

 

Photos

I got the picture-perfect moment as a saw a tower over fog under early morning sun and it lasted a second, not time enough to get my camera.

That’s what I believe life is like. Live every moment and don’t spend all your vacation time taking photos with Mickey Mouse. Enjoy the time and don’t document everything.

Oh, when in Europe I do tend to take photos of interesting doors and mailboxes. One thing I’ll never do is take a photo at the tower of Pisa leaning in.

My favorite church there is Santa Maria della Spina, where the original thorn from Christ’s head was housed, until the church was about to be flooded and the Cathedral took the spina. I’d rather go there than the leaning campanile and have lunch at a local trattoria.

I cannot tell you in this post all my favorite churches over the world, but this is one. Being there is a moment captured in time, a photograph of sorts. Dee

Gourmet

Ruth Reichl, I love you!

A dear friend gave my mother Gourmet in the 70’s and she transitioned from cream of mushroom soup to souffles.

When I first read it, the recipes were all written without an ingredient list and everything in paragraphs. I remember one for a tagine that at the last moment called for lemons that had to have been prepared and marinated for three weeks.

Bummer. Get to the end of a recipe and have to wait three weeks to make it.

I always loved Gourmet in whatever incantation and wish it were alive today, but I must confess that in my blog I talk it through just like you did back in the day.

There’s no list of ingredients or amounts, as some strange lawyer says “This sounds like a recipe of my Aunt Millie from Arkansas from the 1940’s. I’m suing you.”

I don’t publish recipes online, except the ones I create. Photos are essential, I know. As the fog comes in and off the lake and the trees and moon emerge from time to time, I think it’s going to be a good day. Except the birds start chatting at 4:05 now talking about who Kathy went out with last night and why was Kyle working late again.

Yes, I speak dog and cat and am learning bird. Cheers! Dee

Call Me Otis

At 3:30 this morning Zoe the dog got me up by whining to get back up on the bed. So I’m up, I call it Otis-ing and I’m a master. And yes, she knows to come to my side of the bed and whine once and if I don’t get up right away she starts using her nails to scratch the wood on our bed. A half hour later she’ll have moved from the middle to my pillow. Usurper.

Fajitas. It’s one of our favorite meals. Yesterday I bought hand-made tortillas. I was concerned that avocados were quite hard but found the best one. I usually marinate raw chicken in lime juice, ancho chili powder and salt but a couple of days ago I roasted a large (4.25#) chicken on a bed of thyme and sage and that’s enough for at least three meals for us and one tasty chicken salad for lunch.

What made it was the salsa. With one barely ripe avocado I chose a ripe mango. Pit and peel both and mash in a bowl. Add one seeded jalapeno and large clove of garlic, both minced. I added a bit of salt and chipotle powder and juice of a lime and mixed. It was really good.

Toast the flour tortillas in a dry skillet and keep warm. Slice a pepper (color of your choice, yesterday I chose red) and one sweet onion and caramelize in oil in said skillet. I chunked the roasted chicken and added it to re-warm. For serving, have more limes ($.89 apiece now, I’m glad I’m not a Mexican restaurant), the salsa, some shredded cheese, sour cream and ranchero beans and let people serve themselves.

I know, Bobby Flay would have put honey in the salsa….. is there a bee lobbying group that pays him on the side? The mango was my “sweet” and the salsa was very tasty.

My next challenge is an American hors d’oeuvre for a Swedish dinner on Friday. A new Swedish neighbor is having us over for dinner to reciprocate for a meal I cooked for him. His father flew in from the old country to see him and we’ll take them to see two flight museums on Saturday, for fun.

Much of my cooking is inspired by other countries. One gent told me yesterday to make my authentic version of true Texas Pedernales chili, Lady Bird Johnson’s version served to 5,000 guests including JFK in the summer of 1962 as an “amuse.” I must say it was refreshing that in over fifty years on this planet I actually heard a non-gay man refer to an amuse bouche! Guess I don’t hang out with enough chefs.

I’m thinking of slicing and toasting a baguette and making a chicken liver mousse with sweet onion, a Jazz apple cored and peeled, toasted walnuts and a bit of cream cheese. All the veg are minced or food-processed, sauteed. Container of chicken livers, cleaned, is added, sauteed and flamed with cognac, then the entire mess, which at this point looks like baby vomit, goes into the processor and the walnuts are added in the last few seconds and pulsed. Salt and pepper, of course. Place in ramekins, cover and refrigerate for at least two hours to set. Serve on toasts.

Then in addition to a bottle of wine, we may also bring a local delicacy for the Swedes to taste, perhaps en route to the air museums. Remember the “mastitis blanket?” Look it up on this site. Our state is famous for its dairies and m-i-l has given me a wooden picnic basket with cows on it and I may just do lunch for Saturday.

My husband’s parents had a dairy for 30 years and sent the cows along to younger folk a decade ago and started a cattle ranch. But when dairy cows had mastitis they needed treatment so over the years they built up points and cousin Val the Vet got a mastitis blanket and I got the mastitis picnic basket.

Well, the basket has cows on it and even our coffee mugs have cows. First time I went to meet the parents I got up pre-dawn to use the facilities and mistakenly turned on the light. What did I see? Nine pair of bull’s eyes staring at me from about 15′ away. Freaky for a mostly city gal. They thought I was Jim’s father getting ready to feed them. I think my error awakened the household earlier than intended for a Thanksgiving weekend.

Where there is milk there is cheese so I’ll check that out for lunch on Saturday, a picnic if the weather ever clears. There is so much rain that parking garages are partially flooded. But it would be local and American and not what I cook from France, Italy, Greece, Mexico or elsewhere. Ciao, ta ta, Dee

What’ll I Do

with just a photograph to tell my troubles to. As sung by Linda Ronstadt, Lush Life.

And It Never Entered My Mind, “order orange juice for one.” Solitaire. I had the album, Lush Life, years ago but need to buy this now. The songs are lush and lovingly put together.

My husband will love the music in his car. I’ll be careful to get it now as he stole my Kristen Chenoweth  cd and I never got to hear it, probably because the dog’s not allowed in his car and her 4″ orthopedic bed is in the back of my SUV. But we don’t spoil her or anything. Road trip? My car, dog in back. A few songs on tap and when hubby’s asleep I’ll just hit on Peter Paul and Mary and sing harmony.

There’s something about the way Ronstadt sings and Nelson Riddle’s orchestration that still moves me. It’s like Tommy Dorsey and The Chairman (Frank Sinatra) were together again but more elegant and subtle. It’s the strings that make it, as a young violinist who quit after a few years at age nine. Sorry, Mrs. Smith.

When I heard Linda or Frank years ago I was alone and eating peanut butter sandwiches over the kitchen sink. Yes, I toasted the bread. Married for over a decade I still love the songs. No, I do not try to get blind dates for my friends, but still love good music and if you choose Linda or Frank you’ll never go wrong. My favorite album of all time is Frank’s Come Fly With Me. It made me want to go places and see things and luckily I’ve been able to do that. Cheers! Dee

 

Little Things

A lot of my life has been impacted by books and movies. We grew up in the middle of nowhere and the only television I saw was Walter Cronkite giving the number of dead Americans in Vietnam at the end of the news, and Jacques Cousteau. Ok an occasional “Flipper” but back then it was a porpoise and not crummy home renovations.

Here’s my list of favorite “small” movies that are deemed so by me because they are not produced by Bruckheimer and don’t have a lot of cars crashing and things blowing up. If they do, there’s a story behind it that backs up the carnage.

At age eight I read The Diary of Anne Frank and Death Be Not Proud. Both were quiet stories about tremendous trials and hardship. I don’t need car chases or trains and planes blowing up. Human trials are enough for me and more poignant.

Over the past few days I’ve been tossing movie names out to my husband. We go to his sci-fi movie and I get a chick flick. He takes me to The Ring and I take him to Memoirs of a Geisha and we each get two movies to choose from. With both Netflix and Amazon Prime we rarely go out to the movies anymore. Along with that I must say he thinks I’m nuts for doing this and he created this blog and I’ve nearly 2,800 posts on it. Thank you, dear. This list is a random creation.

My first is Star Wars IV, A New Hope. I never saw it in the theater but decades after it premiered we bought the CD’s and lent them out and they were never returned. Now we watch part of the marathons. I thank my loving husband for introducing me to this genre which does include blowing stuff up but for a reason and real story. btw, in the end Luke and Leia are twins. Sorry, thirty years later to spoil the story.

ET, a love story between a boy and an alien and knowing who should have been involved (not the military). If I were to pitch it I’d say it was a coming of age story with a family – a boy – and an alien and the over-intrusive government tries to get in the way of a true friendship.

Finding Forrester, because the kid chose his own way to get an education and play ball.

Truly Madly Deeply because it was about forever love.

The Sound of Music and Mary Poppins for the songs, of course, that made me want to make music, and telling me whatever I chose to do in life I could make a difference.

A Price Above Rubies for courage. Salmon Fishing on the Yemen for commitment and love.

Field of Dreams for transcendence and James Earl Jones. The Pride of the Yankees for the great Lou Gherig. Rudy for pushing through against all odds to be carried off the field at Notre Dame.

The Brothers McMullen because it exposed some raw notes in religion, sexism and going public on issues that had not been discussed. Seven Years in Tibet, The Last Samurai. The Princess Bride, To Catch a Thief……

There are others. This is just a start. Perhaps I should be a movie critic as I don’t yet have my own in the can, so to speak. The sun is up and so is the dog so I must dance to the music. This morning, merci beaucoup, I can’t dance, don’t ask me, Dee.

ps Fred and Ginger danced to that song, her in high heels and backwards, yes I got to meet her and she danced with my father on stage in front of a few thousand people. I think she led.

Job Wanted

Mid-fifties candidate. Well-versed in government, advocacy and non-profit organizations. Consultant and former Trustee. May be willing to relocate.

Storied work history, gets along with anyone but terrorists and racists and those who don’t believe women should work. Writes a blog for fun and loves her husband and hip-less wonder dog.

Member of AARP, AAA. Thank you and please let me know. Dee

ps my dog has a better resume, with photo, than this. It’s all true, though and my only conditions to being sent overseas are the dog, she must come with, and that I’ll never wear a burk-ha and be stuck on a compound somewhere.