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Informed Voters

Right out of college I was looking for work and taking short-term gigs in the process while living at home, in the middle of no-where. I traveled back to my alma mater’s stomping grounds for a round of interviews and got two offers.

One was to be head of PR at a major summer festival, a year-round job that paid very little and on the off-season, transitioned to planning for next season while doing administrative work. The other, for 75% more pay (still very little) would drop me into the deep end in the statewide political sphere, working as an analyist for the Speaker of the Assembly.

That was on a Friday. On Monday I became a policy wonk. At first I was filling in for the insurance committee analyst who was on maternity leave. I must have done OK because they only kept me on after Session, paying me to shift between information support and odd projects until a committee came up that I could staff.

The hirers, my former bosses all those years ago, saw something in me that I wasn’t able to see for myself. That I could dive into the deep end and swim, learning esoterica about whatever subject I was confronted with. Luckily or unluckily, the committee that came to me was governmental operations. I didn’t get to dive into a single subject, like banking, tourism or real property taxation.

No, not me. I had the largest committee without a complementary staff such as Ways and Means and Judiciary. I had 750 bills to shepherd, more than twice the normal committee, and this was pre-computer. We wrote out bill reports by hand for transcription by a clerical staff and tracked all bills by hand. I had to become an expert on legislative ethics, fire and safety codes, crime victims, non-professional business licensing (financial advisors, estheticians), civil and human rights, veterans’ affairs, cable television franchising, qualified immunity for police officers, land sales, let’s just say it was the “grab bag” committee.

I loved delving into policy. A couple of years into it, a lawyer from the bill drafting staff said, “no problems with this major piece of legislation you wrote, I have no changes. Did you know you’re the only analyst who writes your own bills?” Huh?

Last night Joe Biden gave a masterful press conference in which I learned a lot about the wars in both Ukraine and Gaza. Only someone with such history and policy/political expertise could have explained the intricacies of our negotiations on the world stage to achieve peace. If voters want to know a bit about what is needed to achieve successful diplomacy, they can’t ask for a better example.

I’ve my own theories about the student protests pre-graduation and think they may have been averted if they knew more about the historical situation. I do believe the U.S. is now on the right track using world pressure to get a cease-fire, prioritizing food and aid, and going through the steps for a two-state solution.

All the information I got back in the day came from nightly news and daily newspapers, including NYTimes, WaPo and local papers. One morning I got in to work super early, dropped my stack of papers by my desk and got to work immediately. My boss walked in and asked what I was doing. I told him I had too much work to spend time on the daily news. No, he said, that’s my job. Read the news, then get to work! Good lesson.

Now our information comes from so many and so few sources. Voters have to read a panoply of new sources to judge for themselves what is true. I always look at who wrote the article, what it’s published in, and what the writer/publication has to gain from spouting this point of view. If one only gets news from TikTok or Facebook, they have very limited information and it may be skewed misinformation or disinformation from un-trusted sources.

Being a good citizen isn’t easy. Last night I learned that we won’t grant 2,000 lb. bombs as part of our assistance packages because they cannot be used in urban environments as they cause unnecessary damage to innocent civilians. Who knew outside of current policy wonks and military officials about that granularity of information?

Next time your neighbor says there’s a pedophile ring coming in across the street from the barbershop, don’t accept it as gospel. Check it out. I get notices about public hearings on certain types of new businesses (after stopping an after-hours biker bar) and it turns out not to be the case. I’m not happy with what moved in, as it seems sketchy, but no-one’s ever there. I got it from the horse’s mouth, my barber, across the street. Get your news from reputable sources, read up on the issues, and vote! Dee

Quiet

I like quiet. A dear friend now interred at West Point told us a story at lunch one day. They had about 1,000 acres and a home within and a neighbor complained of noise at their home. He said, “then stay off my property!”

My dog thinks she’s in charge here and barks once at any noise because protecting us is boring, she’d rather protect everyone, herders…… But neighbors slam their doors. I know my husband is ready to shave and get into the shower when he slams the toilet seat down.

I tiptoe around and am quiet so my husband and dog can sleep when I’m up at 3 a.m. Even when I take the dog out early morning I close our door and lock it quietly so I don’t awaken neighbors and wear Crocs in summer, soft, quiet shoes.

What I don’t understand is when a neighbor calls for an elevator and hears me locking our door, hits the close door button instead of doing what I do. Anyone there? They either say I’ll be right there or say they forgot something and to go ahead. I know everyone and do not know who it is that closes the door in my face. That is not on point but it is about neighbors.

Rant of the day. I may have more. Cheers! Dee

 

I Did It!

The last one was my 2,000th post and I swore to retire. I will miss you, dear reader, for your pithy comments (my aunt made me read the dictionary while using her bathroom, she was an English teacher) and friendship.

How about giving me a well-deserved vacation and I’ll decide whether to resume this, change the name or focus or just keep being Dee. I still have the site and of course I’ll let you know.

I’ve had a wonderful few years hearing from you and reading your blogs and will keep this site open for you to tell me to keep on writing!

Thank you for letting me learn how to write from the heart without fear, express myself, and not be so shy anymore. Thanks for letting me use this site to talk about politics, bullying, family, childhood and dogs as well as cooking.

My husband created this site for me six years ago and I was so scared to write on it, but How To Eat a Concord Grape was my first foray and it’s above and beyond my most popular post, especially in grape season and everyone wants to know whether or not to eat the seeds. I’d say be outdoors, follow my instructions and spit them out.

I am glad to have been useful, perhaps for dinner ideas, insightful thoughts and a little wisdom here and there.

With a blog there’s always something left on your “desk,” and an old friend of my Dad’s once told him: never stay late to clean your desk on a Friday. It’ll give you something to do on Monday. If you clean it all up you may die over the weekend. That is a very bad rendition (mine) of an old Irish proverb.

My desk is messy and I like it that way as it gives me something to think about. Cheers and Thanks, Dee

Solutions

I believe I was made for this role, whether helping a client, lifting my old dog up to the bed or helping talk and sing my husband to sleep when he has issues on his mind.

In the end I tend to think outside the box. As a problem solver that’s a good thing. I wake up at 3:00 in the morning with my best ideas, some of which have been implemented to great success.

What do you need? How can I help you get it? No, I can’t help you get the model in the magazine. That’s not my line of work.

Relationship problems? With dating or marriage? Not really. I listen and know one thing. If a friend, wife or husband comes to you with issues, listen only. Do not say so-and-so is the biggest jerk you’ve ever met because when they get back together tomorrow you’ll be the one in the dog house. That is wisdom.

I prefer to deal with other relationship problems like clients and organizational issues. Personal relationships are a part of that but usually solving the business portion takes care of a lot of that, and it may include reorganization and firing or not.

Age and wisdom, combined are a strong cup of tea, though I usually ingest herbal, lemon and hibiscus actually. I miss working but cannot keep a practice and my family and now, my family is more important.

This post is dedicated to my Dad, for allowing and encouraging me to think outside the box, my brother for acting upon it and my husband for putting up with me and the dog. Cheers! Dee

Oxymorons

Write a book on intuition. Some of us have it, some don’t. Reading about it will not help.

Have a dinner party and know exactly how, when and where to seat your guests and what to cook for them. Know how to steer the conversation when it goes to politics or religion and you want to get back to the shallow end of the pool before a guest or two drowns.

Should all the women of the world gang up and write a book on intuition? If we did, men would never read it. Certainly they would not understand it. Oh, I love gay men. They get it, and decorate and cook and talk to people like me.

I think this is one of the first things parents can pass along to their babies. Mommy and Daddy love you and we look for any sign of a need for food, nap or diaper change (Daddy usually disappears to the garage when that happens). You, kiddo, need to do the same. It’s OK to cry. Watch people. Know what they’ll do before they do or say it. Be one step ahead.

Read people. Anticipate. Act. If a friend comes over to my home crying I know something is wrong, offer tea or a glass of wine and whatever is wrong will come out and then we can make a plan to deal with it and I’ll have your back.

That’s the female world. I’ve worked with guys all my life and most are in love with their wives and nuts about their kids. They just can’t show it. This dichotomy must stop. My dad went out to play softball or touch football with ALL the kids in the neighborhood every summer evening after dinner. That was his rule. If the girls and little kids can’t play, I won’t play. We were tossing a softball to a three year-old  from several feet away and she ran to first base.

One thing I can say about my old man (yes, he’s old) is that he always had intuition. I do not believe that can be taught. We can talk about nature and nurture in another session. Thanks for reading! Less than 40 left. What do you think my next blog should be about? Don’t say start tweeting. Dee

But a book about intuition? That’s an oxymoron. Dee