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The Stare

People sometimes talk about “dog heaven.” I can’t imagine a people “heaven” without dogs, or even my enervating cats.

When Zoe goes, it will  be with our love and blessing and hope we will meet again. She is certainly irreplaceable.

Who do you know that can stare you awake? No harrumphing, barking, whining, squirming and rolling on the rug. No scratching of floors or doors. She just stares and after 13 years we are one, and I awaken, dress for the weather, take her out, feed her and on weekends, lift her up to the bed to snore alongside my husband.

Zoe has made “the stare” into an art form. I know 99% of the time what she wants. Early dinner. Out. Precious (it’s her only toy and I keep it up high). Bed. “Lift me, Mom!” Up on the couch with me at night to watch a movie. Often she doesn’t even ask for that one but she is usually respectful of my space except when I make half of a soft blanket available.

It’s one thing when I’m awake and aware of the time of day as to what she needs (she never lies when she stares to go out), it’s her ability to stare when I’m sound asleep and awaken me. Eerie. Luckily no-one in my life has ever done that. My older cat learned from my sister’s cat how to open the cat food cupboard. He’d get up at four in the morning and slam that door about 1,000 times, then come upstairs and sit his hefty 14 lbs. directly on my bladder. I had to get up, go downstairs in the open loft and use the bathroom, then I’d feed him and we’d both go back to bed. He was a talker, Burmese mix, and in 13 years I never got in the last word in an argument. “Anywhere is allowed save my kitchen counter work space.” “Mraaaaaah.”

My younger cat, at the time, played with dogs. Dogs would run away from home to play with him. Yes, I’d get phone calls. Is she there? Yep. He walked into my loft at nine weeks and lived there nine years, crawled in bed with the dog and stayed a year. He taught himself to retrieve crumpled post-it notes. He’d sail over the top of the sofa, grab the note, run around and drop it at my feet. Yes, a DSH Retriever. That’s domestic short-hair, he was a tuxedo cat with white chest and paws.

You wouldn’t believe that the day after he was neutered the vet called to make sure he was calm and sedate. I’ve spayed and neutered enough feral cats (about 2,500) that I know they do what they can do, especially males as the surgery is not as invasive. The moment I answered the phone Mickey was sailing over the top of the sofa chasing a post-it note. He’d dropped an old one at my feet, daring me to toss it. “He’s right next to me, Doc, and is calm and doing well.” He was calm and doing well, according to him, as he dropped the “ball” at my feet so was next to me.

I’ve had some strange animals but none could just stare me awake. It’s freaky. No. My “alarm clock” is not for sale or rent. First, because her timing is her clock, not mine. Fall back and spring forward are difficult times for us because our sun and clock are different. Seven a.m. becomes either six or eight. As she ages it seems to take longer to adjust.

Our girl is dearly loved so much that even my mother-in-law bought her a matching Christmas stocking last year, shocked that Zoe was not considered part of the family, stocking-wise. That from a family that wanted to keep her as a pup in a goat pen, and not on our bed. Farms. We hung it up between our stockings with pride. I don’t think it stared at us. Cheers! Dee

ps One could set off fireworks across the street in the park and it wouldn’t wake my husband. The Stare doesn’t work on him. Is it a motherly instinct? If you know, please clue me in. Thanks, Dee

 

Anniversary

Twelve years ago today we adopted dog Zoe, a herder, Australian Shepherd mix, from a shelter. A few minutes on the road she popped out of the cardboard box at just six weeks of age, a 6-pound cotton ball, ready to tear the squeakers and filling out of any stuffed toy, no she does not have any stuffed toys.

Luckily my husband was driving. I tossed the box into the back seat, she sat on my lap and looked out the car window. She’s loved us and “her” car, my car with revved up orthopedic bed and cargo net, ever since. She only pops her head up at off-ramps and stop lights. She knows the ranch from miles ahead.

As she knows home. After two hip removals and growing her own hips, she deserves a home. It was fate that brought her to us. Someone had a claim on her and we were called the next morning and they said the family said no and we were next on the list. That’s why she’s Zoe. She’s an internal fighter when it comes to her own well-being and is so sweet to other dogs, humans, even cats so she’s something special.

Age five months, the cat parade. Me, Zoe, Meow Meow (a feral who had about 12 places to be fed but slept outside our door because as a pup Zoe was going out 8X per day) and a mockingbird who was chasing the cat. Yes, if you’ve watched or read The Princess Bride, Zoe and I were The Brute Squad. I doubt we could have taken Meow Meow’s lunch money….

Over the next few days after adoption we dealt with severe coccidia and hookworms, later I did two weeks of research on all kinds of hip treatments after her surgeon pronounced her, at 25 lbs, the worst case she’d ever seen.

I think she was sent to us for a reason, me to be “food wench” and disciplinarian and walker, and my husband, the long walker and fun guy. We got her hips done and did physical therapy for many months. It was only when she got her paws onto our counter and ate a pound of marinated steak I realized she was OK. Now she’s old and I have to “Otis” her to bed at night.

Congratulations to Zoe for 12 years with a family who loves you. Cheers! Dee

ps Thanks to responsible no-kill shelters everywhere. One of my four was a family “surprise,” a kitten at five weeks that I had for 13 years. The others are all from shelters and even the “broken” ones can make the best companions. Adopt. Spay/Neuter. Train. Love. Those are my rules. D

Ingredients

I’ve a bunch of heirloom carrots. Sadly, the refrigerator drawers designed for fruit and veg freeze everything. I’ve even placed kitchen towels on the bottom and placed them at the highest temperature.

Soup is the order of the day. Due to the colors of the carrots it will make an elegant or dismal display. I have to walk to the market today. Will take dog Zoe out for a walk.

I wrote to Cesar Millan today. I know he deals with tough cases and doesn’t like purebred dogs. I wrote him the sweetest story about our 12 year rescued herder, Zoe, Greek for Life. She’s under my desk right now and follows me through kitchen (she’s not allowed in my kitchen except to eat her dinner or drink her water) and bedroom and laundry and office).

Success stories are what I always want to tell. Our Zoe was a mess coming out of the shelter, needed shots, fluids, two hip surgeries. No-one who had spent $75 for a shelter dog who needed a thousand more for hip surgeries and rehabilitation. Luckily, we found her and she found us. She just turned 12 years old and we adopted her that year four days hence. What a wonderful world it can be.

I’m working on my carrot soup but need to take the little one out for a longer walk and we may even see her favorite USPS mail carrier. My old dog hated men and uniforms, Zoe looks for mail carriers pants and wags her tail and greets all. She’s a peach. Dee

 

Pit Bulls

I was able to watch a show by dog trainer Cesar Millan on pit bulls. He made cogent arguments that they be accepted into society and went from bad neighborhoods where people make the dogs fight each other to shelters who rehabilitate these dogs and breed others to be family pets.

On this journey he personally helped rehabilitate one dog and ended up in Washington, D.C. to talk to his representative. Congratulations, Cesar! I will fight with you against breed ban legislation and laws.

A few months ago I tried to find a place for us to live. I told them we have a dog. She’s an 11.5 year-old Australian Shepherd/Border Collie mix, 34 lbs. I was immediately told that German Shepherds are on the breed ban list. The woman wouldn’t listen as I said she was not a German Shepherd. There was no way I was going to convince her that breed ban lists are wrong, she didn’t know my dog and had never even seen the property she was selling. I got rid of her in a heartbeat.

I did call the property after sending management a photo of our our old hip-less wonder dog belly-up on our sofa. It demonstrated she is not a German Shepherd. I’ve two problems with this. The manager said they would “consider” our dog. I said that we would not consider them. The other is that in order to get in I denigrated German Shepherds who are great dogs, and so are American Staffordshire Terriers.

As a kid I was bitten in the butt by two German Shepherds but am not afraid of them. I’ve only known the nicest of Pit terriers. If I was putting on my shoes on the front stoop Dolly would run out her door and come and lick and hug me. What a sweetie. Years ago I met with the staff of the San Francisco SPCA. They renamed this dog the St. Francis Terrier. Seeing as I went to a Franciscan school, I thought that appropriate.

Thank you, Cesar, for bringing this issue to the table. My focus for the past 20 years has been responsible pet ownership. I agree that this responsibility plus activism is needed for all dogs who are on the breed ban lists. Thanks, Dee

How Intuitive is your Canine?

That’s what Cesar Millan sent via email today.  I’m embarassed to say that our dog never looks up.  She knew my mother-in-law was leaving for the airport.  We had painters here so I planned to take her along for the ride.

Zoe (the dog) hates it when people pack, as she seems to know she’s going to be left behind.  She loves the 8 year-old girl who cares for her when we’re out of town, but I try to always take her there BEFORE I start packing so she gets to see her pal and barely even looks as we drive out of the driveway.

So here we are, all packed up and I drive a SUV with a big back gate.  What does Zoe do?  Hurls herself against the CLOSED car gate.  It had to hurt, poor thing.  She was so excited to go and insecure about being left behind that she made the jump before I was able to open up to her “canine condo in back, with a 4” orthopedic bed, water bowl and secure tie-down.

Once we were on the highway, she laid down and went to sleep – she’s a great car dog.  As soon as I touch the brakes in the exit lane, she pops her head up and looks around, and she always knows when we’re in the neighborhood, open windows or not.

A note on grilling.  Someone asked us this week whether we grill in the rain or, heaven forbid, in the winter!  Heck yeah!  Shovel a path and we’ll grill burgers or steaks or kofta kebabs.  Thunder and lightning?  Pull the grill up to the slider, a few raindrops on a side of Sockeye Salmon won’t matter.  That’s what I made for my mother-in-law last week (husband had a club steak from the Ranch).

Not only do we grill in inclement weather, we ship meat, like the Ranch steaks from Jim’s father’s spread.  Also BBQ, on dry ice.  We’ve even Fed Ex’d BBQ to New York from The Salt Lick south of Austin TX to feed my family on my dad’s 75th birthday.  Jim didn’t mind my spending $$$ on the food, only that the Fed Ex bill was 75% extra!

Someday I’ll have my Big Green Egg – no charcoal grills or smokers are allowed here.  We have a wimpy grill but it’s small and fits on the deck.

Hear me, grill wimps… you can grill any day of the year.  Now if I had a smoker and had to tend brisket for 13 hours like Jim’s Uncle Bobby makes, weather might make a difference.  We just like grilled food, including Steven Raichlen’s Grilled Fry Bread (check bbqu.com) which is delicious with kabobs or dipped in olive oil with salt, pepper and some red pepper flakes.

Summer may be nearly over and the kids are back in school, but there’s still time to grill, year-round even in the snow.  Keep cooking and share any good recipes right here.  Cheers, Dee

35 lb. Dogs

What is this obsession with 35 lb. dogs?  I’m hearing that people can’t move places with a dog that weighs over 35 lbs.  Perhaps that’s just to steer clear of what they consider “problem” breeds such as pit bulls and others.  But it is patently ridiculous.

Some homeowners associations don’t let owners have a dog or regulate the breed or size.  I’m going to give you my husband’s theory.  He loved dogs as a kid but was a farm boy so always had farm (outdoor) dogs.  He thinks people who want to buy or rent a home with a dog should gain some kind of good dog certificate that is accepted by the powers that be.

I have a one page resume with 1/2 page photo and the rest about Zoe’s being spayed, house trained, passed Obedience 101 and a few other salient facts that go far when trying to lease a short-term place for a consulting placement.

But there’s a friend who wants to go back to a place she’s lived in for five years and her dog hovers near the 35 lb. limit.  It’s a medium-sized dog but they’re being sticklers about weight.

I would worry more about personality, and barkiness.  Perhaps Cesar Millan should be called in to talk about breeds and weights of dogs in multiple family housing.  We’re happy right here but it took 2.5 years to be legit.  Cheers, Dee

Second Chances

Years ago I volunteered for an animal shelter that had a special program to keep dogs in domestic violence situations.  As a soc/psych grad I thought this was brilliant.  Often, abusers start by torturing small animals, graduate to family pets, then children and spouses.  This program would allow a family, when the abuser is put behind bars, to get their dog back.

Today I received an email from Cesar Milan Inc. saying that Michael Vick, who ran a dog fighting enterprise and had dogs killed, should get a second chance.

I disagree.  It’s not enough for Mr. Vick to participate in a violent sport, NFL football.  He had to engage in more violent enterprises in his time off.  If he doesn’t care about the well-being of “man’s best friend” he is a dangerous individual who needs lifetime counseling (that won’t do anything) and monitoring.

Pit bulls, cock fights, are all monstrous activities that are considered “sport” to a specialized segment of our communities.  Perhaps it’s wounded people, emotionally damaged, that like watching specially bred animals to fight to the death because they’ve never been in control of their own lives.

I won’t go to a rodeo or horse race, instead help shelter animals and ferals.  In this case I believe that Michael Vick, removed from court time served to advocate for animals, will go back to being Michael Vick, animal cruelty specialist.  And watch out for his family, as once frustrated in his desire to see animals kill each other, his family is next so Animal Control should be contacting the social services department right about now.  Not happy about this, Dee