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Silver and Gold

You’re thinking of Burl Ives’ silken voice in a holiday story that featured him as a snowman and Rudolph, the one with the red nose, as the star. I loved his talent and voice and saw him in his underwear. I was 19. He was being prepped by his wife and daughter for a performance and commanded me to come in, as I’d arrived to pick him up for said performance. I turned bright red and said no sir, I’ll wait for you out here, and I did.

I was taught to walk with a dictionary on my head, music, dance, even opera in our very small town. I took to prim and proper and well-educated well then when I was in my 30’s just took a small riff on it.

We were taught that no-one wears silver and gold together. I bought matching 18K gold wedding bands. Years ago to help my arthritis my husband bought me a silver and gold “golf bracelet.” We bought 18K gold earrings that I’ve worn for over ten years, day and night and  another golf bracelet for my right wrist for arthritis.

All of my jewelry and heirloom pewter, wood-lined cigarette box given by my great aunt was stolen, along with all her sapphire jewelry.

I don’t wear necklaces any more but have two new additions to my daily regimen. A sterling silver Claddagh ring I’ve always wanted for my birthday (heart turned inward, sorry gents), and a Turkish eye bracelet recently arrived from Islamabad from Dad.

Silver and gold, together. A tiny rebellion when one remembers having to lend a white glove to my sister for Mass to carry so it looked like we both had a pair, or wearing a tissue on our heads when we didn’t have hats.

Of course I took it a few steps further. I went to lunch and to the movies by myself, have had an interesting career, and like to spend my days in a tee, jeans and crocs. No more heels or dresses.

I try to protect our and others’ personal privacy and keep us and our neighbors from harm, and buck authority as needed. After years of being a tongue-tied kid afraid of her own shadow I emerged (a late bloomer) to speak my mind from time to time. My mother wished I hadn’t. Dad said GO!

Certain traits bring people together and often nurturers like me gravitate, luckily, to geniuses like my husband. Over many years we’ve dealt with challenges and find we actually have a few things in common: we believe in whatever issues we believe in; we solve problems; we create constructive change; and we love each other and our families and friends. And readers, of course. Dee

Fighting

Mine is done with words, and my latest is to get a new stop sign at a critical intersection. I tried a couple of months ago but got no response. Then I narrowed my search and got down to the right people and have had much email activity over the last couple of days.

It started with a promise to check into the issue, was passed to two folks, the last of which asked me to send the email back because it had been lost (might that be a clue to see if the complainant is serious?) so immediately I sent him all the info. Hey, they’re dealing with me!

We’ll see what happens tomorrow. I don’t show my government or other “chops” often but should hone them now and then, especially when there’s an accident waiting to happen. The irritation I give the government is much less than an injury or death because the government couldn’t spend a few dollars to put a new, non-faded stop sign atop an existing pole.

If you see something wrong in your community, it’s time to step up and take a stand for your beliefs. It took many years before I became confident enough to do so. I always stuck up for the kids who were bullied in school, but never for myself or my beliefs. It may work immediately or may take years and a lot of abuse to get there but in the end, it’s worth it whether you won or half-won.

There’s more abandon in my cooking since I started sticking up for myself. I also made some good friends and married my best friend and we’ve been together nearly ten years. I discuss and write. Then again, no-one is shrieking obscenities, taking notes outside my windows, slashing my tires or having my car towed after 1/2 hour in a 72-hour zone. When you stick up for yourself, expect consequences and rise above them.

It won’t keep your hair from turning grey (I’ve a gal who’s great at masking that) but will make your life better. Cheers, Dee