Griswold v Connecticut, 381 US 479, 486 (1965) (“Marriage
is a coming together for better or for worse, hopefully enduring,
and intimate to the degree of being sacred.It is an association
that promotes a way of life, not causes; a harmony in living, not
political faiths; a bilateral loyalty, not commercial or social
projects.Yet it is an association for as noble a purpose as any
involved in our prior decisions.”).
Yes, I’m being politically incorrect on a cooking blog. But we’ve been through more than this. Yet I may turn more than a few off this blog here and for that I apologize and wish you well.
This is part of the ruling that a Federal judge had striking down Prop. 8 in California. Prop. 8 was an initiative passed by 52% of California voters to prohibit gay marriage. Utah-based LDS church raised a lot of money to pass this law and now it has been struck down and stayed (meaning nothing can happen in the meantime) pending appeal. It is thought this issue will go to the Supreme Court.
Much in past law has dealt with prohibiting inter-racial marriage, which was wrong and is a wrong that has been righted, at least on the books. But marriage was created in our laws to make the husband the provider and the wife, who gave her dowry and had no property or voting rights, the duties of housework and child-rearing.
We don’t live in that world anymore. My husband and I have no children (we met and married late). When I call to deal with things to do with work benefits they will not talk to me. Even if I get him on the phone and he OK’s whatever I want to do he must stay on the call the entire time and OK the final result. And we were married in a civil union. I pay the bills but sometimes when there’s a problem and the bill is in his name they still will not talk to me.
Imagine if we weren’t married but together for ten years. Hospital visits, personal papers such as wills and DNR’s… we would have no right to do for one another. Taxes, insurance, buying a home, inheritance. If it’s this tough for us being married for years, imagine how it would be for a gay couple with two kids to figure out.
I know life’s not fair, but if there are people who are going to be good neighbors, raise their kids well and benefit their community I don’t care if they’re straight or gay. That’s how I feel, and I’m currently residing in … Utah, home of the people who funded Prop. 8. If I’ve offended you, sorry.
Tolerance has always been my position, from protecting the kid from getting beat up in grade school (yes, for being gay, though I didn’t know it at the time) to befriending the nerd who is way better for the girl to go out with than the football quarterback (I know that brilliant nerd, as I married him).
What I can say to the people who want to keep Prop. 8. Well, I worked on a totally unrelated issue years ago, for about six years and the most organized people ready to take on an issue were… gays and lesbians. Let’s just say religious right-wingers vs. people who’ve fought the AIDS crisis from medical to legal and beyond, I’ll bet on the gays.
Cooking with Dee 