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Remembering 9/11

It was 4:03 p.m. when the neighbors started banging on our door, shouting “CNN! CNN!” We turned on the television after the first plane hit the World Trade Center and were transfixed for several days. We’d just been on a sailing trip in Greece for my father’s 70th birthday and he and I stopped by Florence, Italy for a few days before I was to fly home to California.

The Italian people were shocked and very supportive of the American tourists and ex-pats in their midst. On September 12, I joined the citta di Firenze in the main piazza where we held hands, over a thousand of us, and listened to the bells toll. Every day for the next week I started my day, after Dad and I cooked breakfast together, by visiting the U.S. Consulate to check on when the flight ban would be lifted, then the downtown office of my airline to see when I could catch a flight home.

Consul staff immediately invited me to a religious service to remember the dead, which was very moving. Every shop owner, waiter, everyone said how sorry they were for my (!) loss. And when I finally got a flight through Rome to LAX, the U.S. Customs Agent said one thing to me upon the end of a long flight, “Welcome home,” upon which I just broke into tears.

Back in California, everyone was talking about the attacks on the World Trade Center, Pentagon and a field in Pennsylvania. Because everyone was so open, and so raw from the knowledge that our world had been turned upside down, that I met my future husband that first week in October.

I don’t know what would have happened had I been in California at the time of the attacks, but doubt I would have been holding the hands of unknown foreigners in a town square or at a special Mass. But America did come together in those weeks and months while politicians decided how to deal with the issue and new regulations were implemented at airports ostensibly to protect us. Our President let us know we were all Americans, and Rudy Giuliani, then America’s Mayor, made us all feel safer in a way.

Nineteen years later, and we were hit with another catastrophe, one that cost the US over a million lives, and that’s COVID-19. Instead of urging us to come together, our President was more worried about his re-election, and created a divide between red and blue states, caring for one at the expense of the other.

The pandemic that should have been a call to arms for all Americans instead devolved into a war over “freedom” as evinced by face masks and school closures. Certain Americans are still trying to reap whatever benefits they seek to glean off perpetuating these differences. COVID became something China did to us and our stellar medical infrastructure of public health researchers, doctors and first responders are still being questioned over their recommendations and methods.

COVID hasn’t become something we collectively got together to fight and, in its persistence to infect worldwide, has since turned into a blame game with science itself being questioned.

Last time I was in Florence, the Consulate was locked up tight, under military guard, and no-one is allowed to walk within a block of the place. Very different from me walking in, greeting front desk staff by name, and being kidded about getting me back home through Canada but I’d have to stay, in summer dresses, in a chilly climate until flights were allowed into the US from Canada! And America’s Mayor, how far he’s fallen, now disbarred and begging for fund-raisers for exorbitant legal fees for his alleged misdeeds.

There is no way I want to go back to the 50’s to what some call the “good old days” when women and people of color and LGBTQ+ had no rights and there was a right-wing white male patriarchal solely “christian” country we now call home. It would be nice if we could be civil to each other, respect one another’s views and work together to solve the nation’s problems. If we did that, the next 9/11 or global pandemic might have us working together for the benefit of all. Wouldn’t that be terrific. Cheers! Dee

A Fresh Start

OK, I’ll say it. I’m over sixty years old and this is the first time I’ve ever lived in the same place for ten years. I remember putting my tooth through my lip at age six while playing jump rope with my sister. I tied one end of the rope to my bike and twirled the rope while my little sister jumped, and our neighbor Joey took my bike as a joke. I fell, in the driveway, and missed my class trip to the zoo the next morning. But I can’t look out the window of that family home and say, it was there, right there! I don’t even have a photo of it but I do remember playing touch football in the street with the neighborhood kids, and then the country house climbing a rope down the 150′ cliff by our front door (my parents made us use the back door) to play in the creek. But I can’t see it for myself. Even my husband’s family’s farm that they built fifty years ago has recently been torn down for “progress” that is Dallas needing more and more miles to grow northward.

Now my husband and I have been in the same place for ten years and I’m about to learn a new word, again. Purge. I’ve ten years of stuff to purge so we can move in five weeks time. We’re not going far, same town for now, even. It’s even smaller that that, or bigger, both. One tower to another. Bigger.

Purge, once begun later today, will probably become my favorite word for a while, because I want a shiny new home with everything in its place. But I’m scared to take that first step, our closet. Then begins the separation, as we’ll each for the first time, have a separate office. I have to “divorce” our books. Software manuals in his office, cookbooks in mine. We’ll each have our own sanctuary and the dog, who must be by one of our sides at all times, will have to choose.

COVID was a prime instigator of the move. If my husband’s clients are not back at the office en masse yet, he has to professionalize his home office to be able to Zoom well, and that includes equipment for meetings and for teaching teams. He much prefers one-on-one training sessions but this’ll have to do until everyone’s vaccinated. That and my need to change things up a bit.

When we brought home Lulu at eight weeks, nearly three years ago she inherited our old dog’s beds and food bowls. I never removed the few “doggie nose” prints on the lower windows from Zoe, our fifteen year-old Aussie mix who died, because I thought the pup might need to know the best places to lay her head. Now, she does. When I see Lulu lying in the guest bath door a few feet from the front door with her head in the hall so she can make sure no-one comes or goes without her OK, I see Zoe’s head in the same location. Or propped up on the radiator looking out the 15th story window to life below, all the birds and squirrels and doggie friends. Fresh paint on the walls, new carpets and appliances, and a few new things and it’ll be a jump-start that we need after twenty years together. Yep, we met at a TGI Fridays 20 years ago today, over 2,000 miles away. We’ve lived in seven places together, so far, since that day. This’ll be lucky number eight.

We’re not getting any younger, so this will be another stepping stone to our forever home, where we can retire and enjoy our time together and apart. When he was a kid he built himself a workshop, while his younger brother concerned himself with outdoor activities like canoeing. I see a large workshop for him that he can tool up for whatever he wants to build. Rockets? OK, but only if you aim them away from the house. That’s fine, dear.

I’m content with an eminently workable kitchen, pantry and garden and look forward to having a shady, verdant back yard with quiet spaces to enjoy and entertain with a woodburning stove. And a separate space to throw a ball or do some agility with the dogs. Whoops, did I say dogs? Nothing, honey, I didn’t just say that, really. Yes, when we get Lu a little sister. But that’s the future, this is now. Consider this boot camp. Before Thanksgiving we’ll have a new HQ. You’ll still know where to find me and I’ll try to check in from time to time. Hope the Fall is treating you kindly. Cheers! Dee