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Growing Up

We all have childhood stories. At age ten I was laughed at in the locker room changing for gym class for wearing an undershirt instead of a bra. When I told my mother I needed a bra, she laughed. Two weeks later she relented and bought me one, size 28AA. I didn’t need a bra. I NEEDED a bra because I went to school a year early and was always different. If something as simple as that stopped my class from laughing at me, I could fit in a bit.

While I’ve spent 20 years with abandoned and abused pets and feral cats (spay/neuter program) I’ve always had a soft spot for kids and adults who are different than the norm.

A few years ago I got a note from a gal with whom we used to walk to Catholic education classes every Wednesday. She walked with my younger sister. I walked with her younger brother. As they walked behind us they ridiculed him terribly. I stood up for him every time and told him to be himself always. I was eight. I had no idea about about how I was created or that other people were different. It didn’t matter. I was a little kid but wouldn’t allow anyone to be bullied.

Many years later his sister contacted me and thanked me for being kind to her brother and that now they are the best of friends. It’s tough to be different in any way in our society. My husband and I are smart and think outside the box, which can seem threatening to an employer or client. Of course he’s way smarter than me, but when I engaged a lifetime partner, I  looked up and try to meet the challenge every day.

I talked to a gal today on a billing issue and she said she was “Jo.” I asked about her name and she’s Italian and her name is Giovanna, such a beautiful name, as is Deirdre, which is mine. I know you know me as Dee but that’s the name I had to tell the teacher the first day of school every year, from the back row and very shy I’d say after she butchered my name several times, “people call me Dee.” It took me 23 years to appreciate my given name yet now everyone calls me Dee.

When one accepts one’s identity and gains wisdom through parents, life experience, work and marriage, that is growing up. With cell phones and texting I don’t know what kids will be. We never locked our doors or cars but must do so now. We had a land line that my sister hogged for hours every night to talk to a girlfriend a block away.

And I don’t text. Cheers! Dee

Question for WordPress

I have bay leaves. I buy them fresh once a year. Then they are washed and dried, placed in a bag in the freezer for use in soups and stews and stocks all year. Even my mother thought that was a good idea and I used her frozen bay leaves to make her stock when she was sick.

When my sisters cared for her they brought canned stock. She said “Dee always made it herself.” That’s probably the most praise from her for the child she never wanted and never cared for and only, on her deathbed, said “Get me a glass of water, please.” I was always grateful for the “please” and went back to hurricane land but awakened the moment of her death, took the dog to the Park and awaited the call that came from my sisters two hours later.

I arranged to donate her eyes as she had requested. My sisters were angry at the time it took but it was a good thing. She was cremated and her ashes scattered. It’s been five years but aside from those words and the Priest I got her, I haven’t heard from her in over seven years, but I did say “I love you, Mom” at Last Rites. That’s another story.

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Why does WordPress help people write and not help people negotiate WordPress and how to better their site? I’m not talking about monetizing it, just making it better.

Should we have bartering so I can help people write and others can help me with technical aspects? All I know is that sometimes I awaken at night and need to put something down on paper to do tomorrow or write an email or post.

I have to get the thoughts out of me, which was not always the case. I was afraid of writing, that I’d never be good enough. Now I can write this in minutes but am terrified of writing a novel. Bigger things. Shovel snow enough and you’ll get it.

Walk your dogs for 20 years and you have stories to tell.

Bartering, WordPress? Think about it. Cheers! Dee

Muppets, Tyler Florence and Regimen

Let’s start with the first. My husband has always liked the Muppets. I do also but in a passing kind of way. Today I actually worked on piano so that on guitar I could improvise and play him the Rainbow Connection on guitar. Yes, it was horrible but I only had the lyrics to go on, so I made up my own chords in my head and executed. He appreciated the sentiment.

That’s how I mostly cook. On FoodNetwork.com you can look up a recipe for pork with apples and cider gravy by Tyler Florence. His recipe actually makes enough for 12 if not 16 diners. Given that the first time I made it by recipe I spent $70 just for the meat! It is a wonderful dish but I needed pork for two.

Mine was one pork tender marinated with salt, pepper, a slathering of good dijon mustard, placed in a bowl and had a nice Spreckers beer poured over to cover for two hours. Unfortunately things came up and the sauce I wanted to make from the marinade ended up a frothy mess. I bought corn bread (sorry) and used a bit to stuff apples. Sorry, Tyler I wanted a baking apple that was more tart and also good for baking so chose Braeburn rather than your Gala. And I messed with that recipe as well.

On the good side I cooked some pappardelle noodles and tossed them with butter, salt and pepper. Then I had a prepared salad in which the greens had wilted so I added the cranberries, goat cheese and walnuts to fresh greens and, voila! Or, as the French say, “Here it is!” Remind me of that story for later.

Regime. Yes, I’m afraid I’m tied to one for the rest of my life. One life event I dreaded monthly for six years (no, it’s not what you think though I am female) is spaying and neutering up to 200 feral cats in a day. The coordinators had food for us throughout the day but once I touched my first cat all I had was water. I don’t even think I allowed myself breakfast. The ordeal lasted up to seven hours. I ran transport to recovery, all the recovery volunteers including those who watched the cats’ breathing, devised a recovery schedule for monitors and breathers, also the cage cleaners who were sweethearts and stalwart volunteers.

When I arrived home I showered, went right to bed with my two cats and dog and felt I made a difference in the world that day.

Now I have a medical routine that takes a couple of hours a day, is making me well and I will be able to make a difference in our world every day. I’ve never asked anything more. Yes I did ask if my dog could be a therapy volunteer and she was turned down because she eats raw food. Hospice volunteer? Do they think we’re there to kill them? I’m baffled.

A few of my ornaments this first ever adult holiday tree are from children, an event I created 20 years ago. They’re all round and tagboard and painted with cats and dogs or glued on pieces of ribbon and they’re some of the most precious things I can show to family, friends and neighbors. I hope these kids have their own families now. These kids were orphans and all invited and everyone else who attended was given a free ticket with a donation of goods (snacks, juice, clothing) for the kids. I’ll tell you about that brainstorm sometime.

Right now I’m happy to be alive with my guy and hoping Texas has power and water soon, as it seems like my in-laws are last on the list after four days. Dee

ps Somehow mourning the fact our grocery is out of mincemeat seems inappropriate. I think when the streets are clear I’ll search for capon instead, then mincemeat for tarts.

Knowing

Sometimes, with age comes wisdom, one might know what’s coming around that next bend in the road.

For me, my body has tried to hurt, if not kill me, about every five to ten years. I believe I’ve turned the corner this time with a great doctor who doesn’t believe in my theory of my current health issue. As long as I’m getting better, I’m OK with that.

Companies nowadays have no paperwork for health care decisions. They give a strict deadline, emphasis intended, that provides no data on options, no plan data, no fancy multi-colored paper guides (they’re saved for new hires) and even no preferred provider information. They they give a strict deadline and you have to sit down and look at the options without any information as to what you did online last year and choose, blind.

The terms you are choosing are health insurance, accidental death and dismemberment, life insurance, short-term and long-term disability et al. There is no assistance available, no plans to read and one makes a decision based on a template the employer chooses with a very brief window in which to respond.

Talk about reminding an employee and family that death is around the corner. To employers, make it easy for employees to know their choices. Also, allow confirmed spouses access to the database. Above all, if one chooses an HSA please allow them to use it to bring down their deductible. Some people never even get cards to use their own saved money for doctor visits or prescriptions.

We’re stuck in this healthcare program and who knows what money we have in it, only that we can’t use it so pay in to a program that is tax-free and currently must pay medical expenses out-of-pocket after our money is taxed. Go figure.

Anything would be better than this non-plan. This year I’ll look into healthcare marketplaces and see if one works for us until the deadline is upon us once again. In the meantime I will write the President and members of Congress. Dee

Asimbonanga

God rest Mandela, Biko and all the others who fought for what is right.

Asimbonanga. He we will be remembered in the place that he died, in the place where he lived and what he did for his country and our world. Rest in peace, Sir. Dee

First Tree

As an adult, I’ve never had a Christmas tree. I always had a wreath for the front door with some favorite ornaments. We kids each got an ornament every year and they were packed up at age 18 to take off to college.

My husband of nearly 11 years and I have never had a tree. He says he is allergic. So we only needed to buy a tabletop tree, three feet high.

On it are so many memories and not even ones from childhood but for my husband and my time together. There’s Santa in a kilt from Scotland, a snowman with lasso from Texas, a tiny mouse sleeping in a walnut shell as an homage to my dear friend Mrs. H.

There are airplanes from an Oshkosh museum, our first ornaments I got for us before we were married, faded green and blue painted wooden stockings. There’s a recycled glass star from the EcoCenter in Park City. and cardboard ornaments from an event I created 20 years ago called Kids for Kids.

Of course there are cooking-related ornaments, including a reindeer carrying a tray of cookies, a whisk and others. Then there are swirly tin ornaments that catch the light and were handmade in Vermont where we spent some time with my husband’s parents.

I had the lights and ornaments and it’s beautiful. I’d send a photo but my camera is out of batteries. Perhaps tomorrow? We also have two stockings, one with an angel and the other a male Cardinal.

As my husband has already gotten his birthday and Christmas presents I gave him cards as well, one from me stating that the Internet is where Grammar Goes to Die, another from the dog saying “Feed Me Already.”

I also have coasters and a crocheted perfectly starched family of snow people from my m-i-l. And we didn’t need a wreath. I have two jingle bell wreaths. The gold and silver one is outside our front door with a few ornaments, and the red and white one is inside the front door with a few more ornaments.

There’s nothing like a “free” Christmas! We don’t buy gifts, and will need to go to a few holiday parties but this is one to celebrate. We’re here, we’re alive and both nearly well. And husband Jim isn’t allergic to the tree… yet. Neither of us can smell it yet as he’s been kind enough to give me his cold. Cheers! Dee

ps If there’s enough adult in me to obtain and decorate a tree, perhaps next year I’ll try making prime rib, roasted potatoes, lots of veg (that was what I was in charge of in past years) and Yorkshire pudding. Plus mincemeat tarts and trifle. D

Mandela

When I was a child the first television I remember watching was the funeral of JFK. I was five years old and already had age-appropriate books on JFK, Lincoln and FDR. Also Annie Oakley and various ballet primas including Maria Tallchief and Isadora Duncan, Anna Pavlova and Martha Graham.

Today at age 5-10 I’d like to have a book on Nelson Mandela. He did something for the world that no-one else was able to do. I respect him for everything he did for his nation, his people and for the world. Flags should be at half mast here in the US and they are not because politicians only think of themselves and not their constituents or their beliefs.

I have worked over 30 years to help people and animals. It is nothing special, but Mr. Mandela gave us all a challenge to be a better person and help others and be a leader in helping others to do so.

Thank you, sir. Dee

Puppies and Holidays

Whenever I feel bad I think of my pup who we got from the shelter at exactly six weeks of age with hookworm and severe coccidia. A few months later we after much research on my part we had to take her hips out at six and nine months of age and she grew her own from cartilage.

She’s happy, healthy, our Hipless Wonder and will be ten years old next month.Whenever I feel bad about a health situation I consider her and what she has gone through just to be our sweet dog.

Today I brought out a lot of ornaments that mean a lot to me, including two wooden airplanes from a museum this year, Santa and a moose from two states, Santa in a kilt from Scotland, a snowman with a lasso from Texas and many shiny tin swirly ornaments from a trip to Vermont with family a few years ago.

In twelve years , we’ve never had a tree.Today Jim is getting over a cold. I found a gold jingle bell wreath for outside our door, a red and white one for inside, and today plan to get a 3′ tabletop tree to light and decorate.

It is my habit to invite “orphans” to Christmas dinner because we spend it alone now. Thanksgiving is big with his family and was for my mother, too. I enjoy cooking for family and friends.

Wishing you well and happy this holiday season. Dee

Now I need to make some desserts, mincemeat tarts and trifle. Both very Brit. After Mom stopped making turkey for Christmas she did the full prime rib and Yorkshire pudding thing. I did all the veg, from root vet puree to brussels sprouts or pearl onions or spinach or glazed carrots.

It’s been a long time but I do invite people to dine with us. Someday I’ll  make roast beast. This year I’m on a capon search and believe Tower Chick has it to order. Yippee! Dee

Childhood Taste Memories

My dear husband, with whom I’ve cared for 12 years now (married eleven next month) says I made him a food snob.

I was seven when I got the Betty Crocker Boys and Girls Cookbook out of the local library and amassed $ 31 cents of late fees. The library called my mother on the serious debt. I didn’t want to give it up, and did not have to do so because a new copy arrived for my 8th birthday two weeks later.

By then I already knew how to make a perfectly dry vodka martini, but had never sipped one. Dad liked his when he got home from work, though.

My tastes were plebean, but I remember a few favorite things from then. We always tried to make Mom and Dad breakfast in bed. We’d get the cinnamon rolls and orange rolls you unwrap and pop on the side of the counter, turn on the oven, bake and frost them. Of course they were in the dining room by then.

My younger sister and I were not allowed soda so I asked if I could add orange juice to ginger ale. Now, decades later I cut my OJ with sparkling mineral water and always keep a warm bottle of ginger ale in case my tummy is upset.

You’ll love this one. We were not allowed to have individually wrapped American cheese slices. Every few years I get a loaf of seeded rye bread and top it with individually wrapped American cheese. My bad, I did it today!

There are some old taste habits one never loses. At this point in my life, who cares who knows? My father and brother always liked the dry packaged soup mix that said it was “chicken noodle” but had no chicken in it, only salt. To each his/her own. Dee

the best time

of day for me is when our home is entirely clean, free of dust and tumbling tumbleweeds of Aussie undercoat.

It’s a few hours when I’ve brushed out the dog on a towel and gotten at least a puppy’s worth out of her. I can write, sit back, relax and know that in a couple of hours my dear husband, the human tornado, will make a mess of it.

This is my time. Yes, I know you want me to advertise some brand of coffee or hot cocoa. I will not do so. I write for me and for you, not anyone else. Dee