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Mis En Place

I learned several key things in cooking school besides how to buy a knife and that my hands (I added my brain) are the best tools.

From when I was a little kid I would always place everything out before I started to make something, years before Julia Child and mis en place. Asian food, you’ve ginger, garlic, soy, mirin, hot peppers…… The bowl was in the middle and my mother said I always used every dish in the kitchen! Good thing is that the cook didn’t have to do dishes!

I learned to shop the outer rim of the grocery store from produce to fish to meat, dairy, cheeses and only go inside for things like chicken broth, rice, pasta, canned tomatoes. Herbal tea, of course, and extra-virgin olive oil. The dog still doesn’t like it when I steal from her chicken broth stash, 1/4 cup for a sauce. Luckily she forgives me as I do feed her as her Food Wench.

Sometimes I wish I was more religious about packing/unpacking boxes and preparing for a move. My life has revolved around change and some day I’d like to settle in for a while and actually have a home. I’m more disciplined in the kitchen with mis en place.

There are these small dishes in which I can place soy sauce and horseradish paste in which to dip sushi. Sometimes they’re used for spices and I wash the dishes by hand. Yes, I’m chief cook and bottle washer here, including dog feeder and waterer and walker.

As a kid, I and my younger sister used to try to make breakfast in bed for our parents. It never worked, they always put on their robes and walked into the kitchen. That’s probably because Mom bought the can of pastries so kind of knew what we were up to. Cinnamon or Orange, usually both. We were only eight and six then but were allowed to turn on the oven and perhaps even allowed to scramble eggs. Toaster was a no-brainer.

I don’t remember when I was old enough to use a knife. Probably eight. I do remember when my little brother, age three, stuck a screwdriver into an electrical socket and got the shock of his life. And when my sister showed off by demonstrating that our neighbors’ fence was harmless. It was “hot” at the time. They both learned lessons back then but it didn’t stop my brother from climbing up to a 30′ TV tower. I bet the view was gorgeous! He’s a great cook and so are my sisters, and they bake.

Cooking school was more of a way to get out of corporate America using my life savings. It taught me a lot more about myself and my passion for caring for both people and shelter animals. Today, I do just that. Cheers to you, Dee

 

Seems Like Old Times

After months away, my husband is planning to be home on the weekends. There is much to do and it seems like old times. The dog doesn’t get it, yet, but will.

If you recall the Goldie Hawn/Chevy Chase/Charles Grodin movie Seems Like Old Times you’ll know that the supporting characters include the Judge, Aurora and the dogs. Plus the criminals.

Years ago I wrote a blog about the fictitious Aurora’s Chicken Pepperoni and I get hits on it every week. I’ve never made it or found a recipe for it but because this is a “cooking” blog people read my piece.

Oh, when Glenda walked up to that remote cabin in the woods and Nick answered the door…..  This can’t possibly be a spoiler alert because the movie was made in 1980. Sorry, Ira.

Now, Aurora, where’s that recipe? Or are you off to the hospital to get your feet scraped? Where are the dogs and where’s my car? I think it was stolen! Dee

Boyfriends

No, I don’t have one. Happily married for over 12 years. Way back in college I used to go out for a white sangria with a dear friend, a lawyer best friend of an ex-boyfriend, about once a week for an hour, then my boyfriend at the time would pick me up and we’d go out somewhere else. Once I believe they may have passed each other in the dorm hall.

Well, the cougar got in the middle of it this morning. Yes, my aging dog Zoe. We ended up in the elevator lobby with her two young flirtations, M & M. One a huge Akita and the other a Boxer mix. It was quite funny but we got out of there quickly, each to a different location, because the big one doesn’t like other males and the young buck likes people more than other dogs and they both like their Aunt Dee. Young M’s “big brother” J, RIP, used to go into our bathroom and shut the door to get a few moments of peace from playing with my dog’s precious (to her) toy.

Yesterday, her new collar finally arrived. Hand-made from Asian silk. Emerald green with cherry blossoms, just in time for St. Patricks’ Day. An Irish friend and I have agreed to change Zoe’s name to Colleen (“lass”) for the one day. I’ll need to find something green to wear as well. I’ll have to try to look at least as good as my dog. It’s a tough act to follow, nudge nudge wink wink as I’m at the back end of the leash….. Cheers! Dee

 

Leaving On a Jet Plane

I do know that after seven months away on business, my husband will be back this Friday night. Yea! Right now he has a bad cold but is sleeping it off, having decimated a box of herbal tea and several boxes of tissues.

He arrived home at midnight, Friday night and I’ll drive him to the airport Sunday morning for a new endeavor.

For years I’ve loved to sing harmony in the car, especially driving with my husband asleep in the passenger seat or when we’re moving cross-country with two cars and I have the dog in the family-mobile on her 4″ huge orthopedic bed in the back of my SUV. Peter, Paul and Mary. Leaving on a jet plane, don’t know when I’ll be back again. Hey, babe, I hate to go.

I can’t sleep at all. He’s snoring away, and the dog has taken my space on our bed. Oh, well. It might be time to try a haiku. It’ll be bad, trust me. Cheers, Dee

Appreciation

Wouldn’t we all like a dish of that! I hosted so many work parties for birthdays, retirements, promotions I can’t even count and got nothing when I left. Why? Because I organized all the parties.

Today my husband was honored by his client, his colleagues in a group effort. He’s headed home to me after he picks up his luggage at the airport. Only for a day, before he picks up another client with a four-hour time change. Three cross-country, another from Spring Forward.

He was surprised and gratified that his client appreciated his work. Tomorrow, don’t tell him, he doesn’t read my blog, I decided on NY strip steaks, baked potatoes with scallions, sour cream, butter and perhaps a few crumbles of bacon, and a salad with yogurt ranch dressing. Bottled. He hates it when I make my vinaigrettes.

Oh, my. When we left one employer several years ago I hosted our going-away party for all his buddies! One stands out in my memory from over ten years ago when a friend took over our home and brought in neighbors and pizza and beer and wine and we almost forgot how sore we were from packing and lifting boxes.

I’m looking forward to seeing my love and having him home on the weekends. The dog, now eleven years old, looks at him with a bit of suspicion because he shows up for a day and leaves. That’s the way things roll. Cheers! Dee

Fighting

I’ve always had it in me. Sorry, younger siblings. I was only there to protect you. It came out when I was writing legislation to help millions of people. Then, when I chose to volunteer.

My parents never fought, just divorced after 35 years of marriage. It was understood that nothing was ever discussed. A cheek kiss at the door, how was your day, dear, and talk of work at the dinner table. Then we each had to ask to be excused from the table to do our homework.

Parents did instill a 100% effective right/wrong meter as to ethics. I did less than exemplary fighting for crime victim rights and gay rights and privacy in my 20’s because of being stymied by larger forces. In my mid-thirties I took on a volunteer fight that made me grow and helped fellow citizens.

Fight from the heart. Use words, not weapons. When needed, get involved. I’ve pulled a dog with his jaws on mine off, all advice unheeded, he had no collar much less a leash, and we both lived to tell the tale. Re: that pit bull, they never apologized or said they’d pay for vet fees, only said he was going back to Mexico and would never be in our park again.

Yes, I fought. I got that pit bull off my dog by the neck skin and held him. When you fight for anything, for rights, a bill in Congress, or your life, you fight. I will never use or carry a weapon. Words. Actions. Life. Live it as I protect my family, Dee

ps I do have an arsenal of knives, as a cook. I treat them like babies and they look great up on the magnetic rack. Never do I take one outside. Only small scissors to trim our communal herb garden. d

Cooking for…..

kittens? Yes. In 1987 my sister sent a five-week old kitten from CA to NYC on a plane with my brother as a surprise. Surprise, dog gal, you now have a kitten that fell off the 7′ shelf he was born on at two weeks of age and his mother would not feed.

Gorgeous Burmese/Tuxedo talker. I never got the last word until I held him in my arms 13 years later as he was euthanized with heart dysfunction exacerbated by pneumonia.

I knew absolutely nothing about cats. He didn’t even know how to drink water because he couldn’t see it. I left him milk when I went to work, had no A/C so it curdled during the day because it was so hot.

The first day I got a book on cats that told me to only feed him raw kidneys and to keep them in the freezer for four days to eliminate bacteria. OK. Then I got a book I still use (or did, when I lend it out it tends to disappear) that said build a mouse from the ground up.

I bought a chicken, ate the breasts over a couple of days and took off all the other meat for my Nathan. Hebrew for “gift.” My current dog is Zoe, Greek for “life.” Yes, that’s how I name my family, you’re glad right now I don’t have kids.

I mixed it with all kinds of stuff, cottage cheese, lecithin powder, kelp, bone meal. He barely ate it. I finally learned about organics. When he died at age 13 he was on Innova canned. I do much better with what is out there today.

For birthday and Christmas I got him and his little brother, Mickey, each a can of Fancy Feast trash food as a gift. Mick was named Mick Dundee, after Crocodile Dundee, because he was fearless when I adopted him at nine weeks. He took my dog’s bed for a year and then taught himself to fetch crumpled up post-it notes and retrieve them to me. His name morphed to Mickey Mouse and then just Mickey. He liked the twice a year Fancy Feast treats as well. Dogs ran away from home just to play with him.

My dog just turned eleven. She is on frozen raw and dry food. The dry is to prepare her tummy for long road trips. We’ll be moving soon and I can’t get dry ice here to keep her frozen food cold so I’m mixing the two now.

In my life I have “owned” two cats and two dogs. I love all of them but can no longer have cats because my husband is deathly allergic to them. I yearn to live on a farm so all the unowned cats will visit and I can see them outdoors, capture and have them spayed/neutered and if they forgive me for that, feed them. I continue to bathe Zoe every two weeks so her dander doesn’t make my husband sneeze. She loves the bath, not the comb-out 24 hours later.

After my first Nathan surprise, all our animals are from shelters. Please adopt from shelters. I worked with Greyhound Pets of America (GPA) for years and saw pitiful dogs coming off the racetrack of last resort, Caliente, and turning around in two weeks with good food, health care and human care. You may get a diamond in the rough, but it’s your diamond to polish.

I follow the no grain formula, frozen raw and my dog has the softest coat in the neighborhood. Yes, it’s expensive but at 11 our Zoe is happy and healthy. I bet she’d love that chicken mix I made for Nathan back in the day! Dee

What’s In a Name?

Everything. Ladies, perhaps keep your name and credit and have one joint account. When you book utilities and buy a car or home and get auto, home and umbrella insurance do halfies.

Half his, half hers. This week my auto insurance company made out a check to my husband for repairs. I am on the title and the policy and they could only make it out to my husband or the repair shop, not to me. My husband is 2,000 miles away on business and cannot cash that check so they made it out to the shop.

I just received a notice to my husband alone, even though I am on the bill. It is tiresome. I set up a temporary apartment for my husband because he was coming in two weeks before me for a new job. Months later there were anomalies on bills and I called to check things out. No, you’re not on the account.

He came home tired, at night, and I had to call and stay on hold for an hour and then get a person, tell him who he was and give SSN identification, then give them my name and add me to the account and have him turn the phone over to me to deal with the issue. Once, a utility provider gave our payments to some family in Texas for three months and threatened to cut us off. I needed my husband’s permission to contact them directly.

What’s in a name? I use my husband’s last name. He wished that for our marriage. I placed both names on my bank account and now they will only deal with him. We created two new accounts together, we’re both signators and have access to all accounts. I do the bills and the banking. They’ll only speak with him.

America, what has happened? Not only do we make 2/3 what a man in the same job does at work, we own property but only our husbands are allowed access to address issues with said property. I’m not taking any veil, one of subservience and a mask of myself, or becoming a Nun.

People and businesses, I have worked for years for rights for women and good care for animals. I feel right now more like an animal. I hold title to property and goods and no-one will allow me to do my job as a person, a woman, a wife. What is our country coming to? Dee

What Would You Cook?

En route to a new endeavor my husband will be home for one dinner. His favorites are: steak and loaded baked potatoes with salad; and spaghetti and my homemade meatballs.

He has been eating lunch at Subways and dinner for burgers, breakfast at the company cafeteria, for seven months.

Organ meats are out of the question, don’t have me make any Rocky Mountain Oysters. I need to make him something he can’t get in a restaurant.

I’m thinking roast chicken or capon if I can get it in time. Apple-Sausage Stuffing, Brussels Sprouts with bacon. Perhaps a cauliflower puree.

Honey pound cake as a Trifle with cranberry sauce and lemon curd and whipped cream and berries.

Thank you, as always, for helping me think. I have to go order that capon as I’ve only five days to go. Here’s to husbands coming home from work, even if it takes months at a time. Cheers and have a great weekend! Dee

Papoose

By that I mean cradle board or child carrier. My college head adviser, professor, priest and friend for nearly forty years had an office filled with books. Atop the shelving were papooses from the Hopi, who he served every summer.

Many years ago I thought it was strange that a Catholic priest would have baby carriers everywhere. They were beautiful, and also represent life. Sometimes I think he might rather talk to a child who could fit into a papoose than an errant  college kid like me and others.

Now I’ll never know. I couldn’t fly in for the funeral masses. Heaven knows there would be hundreds of people at each one. I may be content visiting my local church for Mass, and lighting a candle in his name. I do regret not getting to see him in the past years as his health declined.

Well, he’s already given me a job, he didn’t waste any time, finding a dog for a neighbor who is elderly and disabled. I went to a Franciscan college. St. Francis is the patron saint for animals. I am the go-to person in that regard, volunteering for over 20 years. They don’t call me the dog lady for nothing. I’ve a good “bite” today from a reputable organization who recognizes my service for the main organization on our campus and my mother’s service as a volunteer for the female breeding dogs in their new northern home.

I received a nice note from this organization today and am hoping to help my neighbor and a dog who needs a job. I told Fr. Cap that St. Francis has always and will continue to put me to use.

Here’s to the Father I will miss and keep in my heart forever. God will bless him. Dee