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Happy St. Patrick’s Day!

There was post-stock market crash “beanery” in an old political town of mine. People would line up around the block and get beans for a few cents during the Great Depression.

I found it one day, a dive, my favorite, with nice owners and waiters. They probably only had twenty tables. It was tiny but cooked the best corned beef and cabbage on rye in town. Brown deli mustard on the table.

After I knew them a bit I started to arrange all our staff lunch birthday, going-away, baby and retirement parties there. I’d call, land lines and rolodexes back in the day, and say I’d like a reservation. They inevitably said, “Ha! We don’t take reservations.” If the owner or his son answered they’d just ask me what I needed and were very kind to accommodate whatever I asked.

I’d tell the others it’s Dee! Oh, Dee! And please have a table for 14 at noon. They did and only did ordering for the few they didn’t know. Plus they always placed four quarts of Pabst Blue Ribbon on the table with glasses out before we arrived.

Tomorrow I’ll wear a green tee shirt I bought the other day. I got it for half what my new dog collar cost. Tomorrow our dog Zoe, age 11, (we’ve just had her for 11 years after shelter adoption on 3/6) will wear a birthday/adoption gift, a 1.5″ Asian silk hand-made Martingale collar, emerald green with cherry blossom pattern. There’s a party and she will look stunning after I comb her out. I will just be at the back of the leash while she greets her public…… [Oh no, paparazzi!! Please, no pictures! Security, just help me to the limo.] That last part was her dream. Her feet are moving and eyes blinking in her sleep. She’s actually thinking of treats, or squirrels.

Apparently they’ll have green beer at the party. I think not for me. I did that once at age 22. And I met a really nice guy in the pub, a high school science teacher who took me for a first date to a movie the following weekend, Caddyshack, which I hated. That and him getting a beep during the movie (he was on teachers’ student suicide watch that week) got me out. He was a nice and smart guy, but no more dates and in the end I got my prince, who also doesn’t drink green beer, or anything but Dr. Pepper.

Back then, everyone knew my name. Now they know my dog. Kids stand outside our door and whisper her name hoping she’ll bark and ask to come out. These particular ones arrive later this week. We’ll be ready.

I hope my Greek friends don’t mind reading this for celebrating St. Patricks’ Day and that my Irish friends would perhaps try moussaka. It might be closer to a Shepherd’s Pie than one would think. Add a bit of eggplant and and a rich, eggy bechamel on top. I love it and it’s great to do in advance to actually enjoy guests instead of spending all my time in the kitchen. My husband hates eggplant.

So raise a pint to St. Patrick, wear your green and enjoy a bit of conviviality with your family, friends, colleagues. Darn, I wish I could have found a Piper. Bagpipes, I miss the sound of the streets of Scotland. Slainte, Dee

Patients and Patience

Yes, it’s tough to have both. A family member was sent to a hospital far away and seems to be doing well. We did not get to speak but I talked to the nurse and left a message.

My husband awakened at three this morning to catch a flight home. He’s been suffering from flu all week, first one of his new job. He arrived early, the moment I arrived at the cell phone lot at the airport. I was 20 minutes early.

He really has not eaten for the past week. We stopped to see what he wanted. Italian soda, soups, bland foods. I’ve ginger ale at home because he’s starving and is not hungry. After a slice of cheese divided over four crackers he was able to eat about 1/3 cup of soup.

He’s snoring away now, which is what he needs and he says his hotel helped him out this week but he wants to be home. My patient, at the moment, has a great caretaker, our dog Zoe. She’s a sleeper, loves to be on the bed during the day with the sick one as that occasion rarely happens. I just have to lift her up onto the bed as every time I go into the kitchen she jumps down (her front half is OK). Dog therapy. Ah, yes, she will not be accepted to be a therapy dog because we have her on raw frozen food. Even a hospice. In the end, she is our therapy dog.

So I’m trying to take care of the patient while using patience and the Hipless Wonderdog. Cheers! Dee

Conversation

“Where’s my cash?”

“Where’s my key?”

Cursory non-worded transaction on a car transport drop-off.

He said I probably already had a key. I did not. He ripped open the envelope and gave it to me. The envelope. He pocketed the cash then remembered I had to sign something to get my husband’s car off a transport. Note to self: never use that company again.

Thank goodness J was there or I may have lost both the money and the car. He also parked a couple miles away and it would have taken me an hour to walk there. Thank you my husband and J! It was a bear parking the car in our garage but I managed it. Thanks so much. Dee

Deconstruction

My husband has had the flu for a few days. He will be home in the morning sometime so I’ve deconstructed flights to find out when to pick him up.

I didn’t want to call him as he must awaken well before the sun. Sent an email with what I surmise is his flight schedule and will carry on from there, hoping he calls to correct if needed. Work backwards. Think Ginger Rogers in high heels dancing with Fred Astaire.

When I was young I’d look at married people and ask, how did they learn that? The husband lends his arm to the wife over a patch of ice. Takes a hand crossing the street or just to connect. Husband takes the dog’s leash while wife picks up the poop. Yep, that’s me, religious about picking up the poop.

After years you don’t ask, just know what the other is thinking. When the priest or minister or Navy Captain marries you, there is a sense that you become one. Then there is that strange clank in the sink when your wedding ring hits a dish you’re washing and you realize you’re really married.

Then you adopt a shelter dog because you think your husband will spoil a child rotten, so he does for the dog. He would not argue with that. We were unable to have children but love our cousins, nieces and nephew.

So we are a deconstructed family. We have a dog. For St. Patrick’s day only, Zoe (Greek for life) will be Colleen, Irish for lass. She will wear her new emerald green collar, hand made silk with cherry blossoms sewn in to the pattern. Cheers! Dee

 

Time and Age

I informed you that my cell phone is very old and has been laughed at by newer models. Last night it hung up on my husband five times in a twenty minute conversation.

Dearest husband sent me a battery for my ancient laptop. I can’t plug it in unless I want to shut the machine down overnight. Still working on taxes. As long as it has its electric lifeline I’m OK. Off it, I found out over Thanksgiving at his parents’ that I’ve less than two minutes battery time.

Time is a measurement we all take each day, I’m so glad to have family and friends in my life. All y’all extend my time. The rest is only machinery. Dee

Sense and Sensibility

I love Jane Austen. Perhaps it’s something about vocabulary, having money and never working a day in one’s life, as one who has never had that luxury. Or considering only manners and dress and who has a better chance at marrying into a “good” family. Americans do it, without the royalty. I learned proper English from three special ladies.

Years ago I was so emotionally involved with both volunteer service and clients I didn’t have time for anything but my pets, dear Nathan, Chani and Mick.

My husband started a new job this week and after being gone for nearly seven months on another, cancelled his flight home. He’s been in a hotel, sick with flu, for three days. Luckily I packed him some tea bags and the hotel has soup. We decided it was not right for him to fly home early or for me to fly to him.

We discussed it yesterday and he told me he is not coming home this weekend as planned. We agreed that if he was really ill he’d come back but I knew he’d go to the doctor and spend the week. He’s at work today and decided not to go through the stress of multiple flights and just stay, rest and sleep over the weekend. Thank goodness for his mobile thingie for Netflix. He’s already a few shows ahead of me on Kevin Spacey’s House of Cards! The world would not be such a great place without Kevin Spacey in it. Sorry Kevin, my husband outranks you.

No emotionality, no crying. We made a decision and are sticking to it. Cloudy, 33 degrees, out with our dog at both 6 and 8 a.m. There’s stuff to do. No time for tears. A car carrier is arriving sometime and I have to deal with my husband’s car. Unload, inspect, pay driver, drive to wash, dry, park and cover. It’s just another series of tasks I do as a living single, married dog owner.

I love hanging out with my husband on weekends and cooking him special meals, and it will soon be time to re-introduce him to our dog. She loves him (more than me because he’s the fun guy) but is suspicious as he flies in for a weekend then disappears. There’s also the suitcase thing she hates. Whenever one is packed she starts singing “Trouble.” Don’t worry. We always bring in a great caretaker. Years later she pulls me down the street to see one. Think of the dog in “Up.” Cheers. You are my master and I love you, Doug

Working for Cars

There’s a resident appreciation event next week, right before they kick us all out of the garage where we pay dearly for a space or spaces, for a power wash, that will probably place calcium deposits on many cars as the water seeps through the garage. They’ve only sealed a few spaces. Luckily my third spot in three years is covered above after the paint on my car was ruined.

We live in an area where parking is at a premium and street parking is impossible to find. There are one-hour, two-hour, three-hour and a few all day spots but they’re inevitably taken. It would be better for them to rotate us through an off-site lot for the day. Surely we pay enough to cover it.

As it is I’ll be alone and have my husband’s car being delivered this weekend, without husband, so with one-hour parking I’ll just be standing on the street awaiting the Parking Nazi. Yes, they’re vigilant. I’ll spend at least a day moving two cars every hour on different streets.

I live for my family, not cars. For me they are only for transportation between A and B. I do know that if both our cars are towed that’s a hassle with which I do not wish to be burdened.

Years ago I learned that if an Assembly bill was amended during negotiations with Senate and Governor it might get to a C (two printed revisions). Nothing ever got to F.

I’m talking degree F here in parking ramifications. It should be built in that we’re taken care of when any garage interruption occurs that is scheduled in advance. I work for my family. I do not work for our two old, great cars. Cheers, Dee

I Burned the Sauce

It was actually a glaze, a marinade that I boiled down. I was on the phone with my husband, who is sick with flu out of state, and inadvertently let it scorch.

I can’t open up windows because snow is melting, the trench 15 floors below is filling and mosquito damage is coming to visit if I break the barrier. I’ve already killed one with my finger on the monitor.

County. CDC. I’ll have to nip this health hazard in the bud. West Nile Virus is serious. The County doesn’t care. Up early. Still smell soy sauce, sriracha, garlic and ginger and as we have no screens I can’t open the windows.

Now the dog is mad at me for leaving our bedroom. She needs to be a couple feet away from me every minute. Not close, just herding. Good morning and cheers, Dee

Explosions

A few days ago when my husband was home and not lying in bed in a hotel, sick with the flu, many miles away, I made him his favorite dinner.

There were two gorgeous NY strip steaks, two small baked potatoes, sliced tomatoes and my grandmother’s cucumber salad.

My little potato, even though for decades I’ve always placed two slits in each baked potato, exploded in the oven. That’s never happened to me. It was a mess waiting for the oven to cool ’til morning and cleaning it.

Oh, I ate my little potato with a bit of salt and pepper, butter, sour cream and scallions (the chives just didn’t look right that day). It tasted great. My husband loved his steak and I used half of mine for a nice lunch the next day. Cheers! Dee

Role Reversal

Every so often I watch DIY for home improvements. Given an opportunity the wife’s eyes widen and a smile comes to light at the word “shopping.” At the same instant the husband looks upset and says “budget.”

In our household, it’s the other way around. Years ago I said I didn’t need a new MacBook so he bought me more memory, a large monitor and cordless keyboard. I didn’t think I needed those either but love them. He recently sent me a new battery which is a life saver because my laptop lasts less than two minutes without its electric life line.

He is the consummate shopper, doing detailed research on every product. Shirts from London, Hong Kong. Budget. That’s me. I pay the bills but appreciate him so much for doing all the leg-work on things we need and he doesn’t want me to carry from the store to my car, such as paper products.

We are the scientist and artist/teacher, a classic combination. When it comes to shopping and budgeting we cross paths. One thing I’ve never done is to go shoe shopping with a girlfriend. Perhaps that might have changed things but then I may have never met my prince.

As children my sister and I got one pair of school shoes each year. Mom told me she should get my sister two pair and I should wear the boxes. One wish in life is to someday have a pair of cowboy boots hand-made for me. It would be a boy’s size, around 4 1/2 wide. No stiletto’s for me. Cheers, Dee