As a spouse, a feminist homemaker, I pay all the bills, take the dog to the vet, let my husband take my car when he needs snow tires as I leave mine on.
I take care of business, Aretha. And I need a little R-E-S-P-E-C-T.
We’re moving this week and I’m not allowed to do a change of address on accounts I set up here three months ago. No, sorry, you must have your husband on the phone before you are allowed to move next door and change your billing address.
How do spouses get on joint accounts and be able to do simple things. They’ll let me pay a bill, just not change our address, and they treat me badly in the process as if we’re in the middle of a horrific divorce when we both are just moving next door.
What happened? I need a 15 page Power of Attorney to change the address of our 401(k)’s. All because I’m “just the wife.” The printer ran out of ink and we don’t live near any store that has our printer cartridges. We’re moving on Friday and my husband is at clients every day and I can’t even call him.
We need a better system, people. Life doesn’t work like Orange Level post 9/11 Bush world wants it to. We are real people who have to live our boring, mundane lives and need access to information to make those lives possible.
Change of address. Our government didn’t think twice when they allowed terrorists to learn to steer a plane but not to take off and land. Hello! All I’m trying to do is change our address to next door. Dee
Cooking with Dee 
That surely merits a “WTF?!?”
I thought my mother had finished fighting those sorts of battles when she was establishing credit in her own name 40 years ago!!!
Believe me, Val, it hasn’t changed. It’s worse. Fifteen page power of attorney? Remind me to have our healthcare directives and everything else in order, once the boxes are out of here. We’re out, gave up keys this morning. This place is a mess, box land, but has a great view. D